Well, folks, Valentine’s Day is coming up, and with it the romantic dreams of couples and singles alike.
How does the average couple celebrate this holiday? What if you are infatuated with someone but aren’t dating, can you ask them to be your Valentine?
For such a magnificent holiday, there are so many questions yet to be answered. We’re here to help.
Relationship experts feel the best time to ask someone to be your Valentine is at the beginning of February.
The idea is that nobody else has asked that of your person of interest yet. If you want to initiate a relationship, the beginning of Valentine’s month is the best time to do it.
Waiting too long practically assures you that the other person has already been asked and has accepted.
This does not mean you are completely out of luck; however, the other candidate now stands a better chance.
Even if you think it’s too early, ask them anyway. Although this tradition began as a method of celebrating the holiday, it is now customary to refer to your love interest as your Valentine.
It is a way of showing the other person you want to spend time with them.
If Valentine’s Day was the only time someone could ask another person for a date, there would be many lonely people in the world.
Ask them any time your heart desires. You can still call them your Valentine even if it’s nowhere near the holiday. In fact, your date might find this cute.
Yes! Many long-lasting relationships start out with a crush. It is not necessary to be madly in love with someone in order to ask them out.
It signals to them that you are interested and want to get to know them better.
A tried-and-true way of asking someone is to send the other person some flowers with a card attached.
On the card, say you would like to spend time with them. Don’t forget to include your name and a way for them to respond!
Yes. Bad times include while they are in the midst of a busy workday with deadlines pending or have other things on their mind. Their response could be rushed and even rather cold.
If this is somebody you work with, wait until break time. If the other person is not in your workplace, wait until they have some time off.
Also, if the person you want to ask just got out of a serious relationship, don’t ask them if you think it might upset them.
There is no one true answer to this question. It is as much of an individual thing as the men are themselves.
Some men are definitely against picking only one day to celebrate their love, while others cherish this time of year. The same can be said of women. Some love it, some do not.
Yes, in fact, most people are. In today’s society, one of the most difficult things to do is let someone know how you feel about them.
Asking them to be your Valentine can certainly make you nervous, as it causes you to be vulnerable and opens your up to the possibility of rejection. It’s all part of the process.
Not necessarily. It can be someone you have admired from afar. Now you have an opportunity to ask them to be your Valentine. An exception would be if you know the other person dislikes you.
Then such a question will prove uncomfortable for both of you. Avoid such a scenario!
Absolutely yes! If one person has an interest in another person then it doesn’t matter if they are of the same sex or not. As long as you are being respectful, it is always ok to ask.
Being in love is for everybody regardless of their sexual orientation.
Yes, to this question too. True love knows no boundaries. If you are interested in a younger person, by all means, ask them to be your valentine – again, as long as you are being respectful, and they are of legal age.
There’s nothing wrong with being interested in someone who is younger than you. Again, love is for everyone.
If the other person is interested in you, by all means, yes! Even when it is not Valentine’s Day, asking the person to be your Valentine demonstrates your feelings for them.
If you neglect to ask because you are afraid of rejection, somebody else might beat you to it.
It is best to do so in a private setting as opposed to a public one. You are about to reveal your feelings for this person, which is a big deal.
Do not embarrass him or her by making a public declaration of love. Instead, escort them to someplace out of the spotlight where it is just the two of you then just come out and ask them.
If you feel like you are lacking in ideas, here are a few suggestions:
- Send them flowers
- Write an original poem for them
- Send candy
- If you have a family, involve them in the activities
- Invite them to dinner
- Send or give them a cute stuffed animal with a declaration of love on it
This is perhaps more important than what to do if you want to ensure a positive response:
- Send an expensive gift
- Send a text message or an email
- Ask in front of a huge gathering of people
- Take them to a strip club
- Ask for a kiss right off the bat
- Get too personal right away
It depends on what kind of chemistry there is between the two of you. Some people prefer to just date casually for a while before asking that.
With other couples, there is that magical feeling immediately. If you are experiencing the latter, go ahead and ask them to be your valentine.
Years ago the answer would have been no way. However, times have changed, and it is now considered acceptable.
You must make up your own mind about this approach and not let other people interfere. Only you know the guy well enough to know if he is receptive to such a thing or would be offended.
Although there might be exceptions, this is generally not a good idea. Unpleasant things could happen, and you could be harshly rejected.
They might agree to this only to get back at their ex. If you really like this person, patience is a virtue. Wait at least a little while.
This is another instance where it depends on the individuals involved. You have to make sure the other person loves children.
Something else that matters are the ages of the children involved. Just remember that single fathers deserve to find happiness too.
For a lot of people, Valentine’s Day is the holiday of love. People use this time to profess their romantic feelings about another person.
There are scores of people that feel this way. If you have been waiting for just the right time, Valentine’s Day is it!
Definitely yes! There is nothing wrong with sharing a little extra passion for the person you already love. Many couples cherish moments like that and find it strengthens their marriage.
Just because you two have already said “I do” does not mean all the romance should disappear.
If the relationship has blossomed quickly, it can be okay. If it has not, that is another story. In that case, she may be offended and think that you consider her cheap and too easy.
You will know when the time is right. There will be that unmistakable passion and chemistry between you. Then she will welcome the opportunity to kiss you.
Again we harken back to how times have changed. It used to be if a woman did that, she was labeled too aggressive or too fast. Today things like that no longer matter.
The man could be too shy or have other reasons why he hesitates to kiss her. The minute he knows she wants to do that then he feels much better.
- Enjoy some time with only each other
- Take a trip to a romantic destination
- Invent a game for exchanging gifts
- Involve the whole family in the festivities
- Throw a Valentine’s party for family and friends
- Take some time off work to devote to each other and any children
- Decorate your home in a festive fashion
- Watch romantic, family-oriented movies
- Take a drive along a scenic passage near your home
- Cook a fantastic meal for your partner
Valentine’s Day was meant to be enjoyed by all, not to be spent worrying to death. Go ahead and display your passion for each other. It will end up meaning a lot to both of you!