Relationships can be very complex and difficult to define, and we often use different terms to describe certain relationships.
If you’re in a relationship and you’re not sure how to describe the type it is, you may have come across the word “shallow” and wonder if it could accurately describe your relationship. But what is a shallow relationship?
A shallow relationship is one without any consistency or sustenance, so in other words, there’s no commitment and it’s basically just a friends-with-benefits type arrangement.
Even if a person never intended to become involved in a sex-only relationship, if their relationship lacks any commitment or sustenance, then it is considered a shallow relationship.
Here is an overview of the different types of relationships couples can be involved in, and more interesting information to help you better understand shallow relationships and more.
It is certainly possible for a couple in a shallow relationship to create a relationship that is more meaningful, especially if they are starting to develop real feelings for each other.
As long as both people in the relationship desire to become an actual couple, then they can certainly achieve this goal together.
If you’re in a sex-only relationship that you’d like to become something more, then you need to let your guy know how you feel and take it from there.
Shallow relationships are preferable for many couples who don’t desire a committed relationship.
These couples are often content with being together for sex only because they’ve been hurt in a previous relationship and they’re trying to heal while still enjoying the benefits of sex. However, this is not always the case.
There could be other reasons why couples are happy in shallow relationships, but as long as they’re both happy, then there shouldn’t be any problems.
Couples who started out in shallow or sex-only relationships end up falling in love and getting married all the time.
After being in their shallow relationship for so long, they are able to heal and learn to love and trust each other, so evidently, their shallow relationship was a great way to get to know each other.
Most people involved in shallow relationships never intend to fall in love or desire to get married, but you never know what could happen.
Yes, couples break up all the time for various reasons only to resume having a sex-only relationship at a later date.
This can sometimes be a great way for couples to remain intimately connected while they work on the problems that caused them to break up and hopefully figure out a way to reconcile.
However, these couples aren’t always able to reconcile, as sex may be the only thing they have in common.
Yes, guys are more apt to prefer having a friends-with-benefits relationship as opposed to women.
Most men have more reasons to prefer such a relationship, as a man may simply not be ready for commitment and just wants to play the field, or he simply hasn’t met the right woman who is worthy of his time and effort.
Many women prefer a committed relationship, but in situations where they’ve just gotten out of an abusive relationship or were cheated on, they simply may not be ready.
There isn’t necessarily an average age for when men want to settle down, as every man is different and may reach that point at different times in his life.
While some men might be ready to settle down in their early twenties, others may not be ready until they’re nearly 40 years old or more.
A man who was raised in a loving household where both his parents remained happily married will be more likely to desire to settle down sooner.
If a woman is ready for commitment and marriage but the guy that she wants that with isn’t ready, there may not be much she can do to help him become ready.
All she can do is tell him how much she loves him and how she is ready to settle down.
It might take giving him an ultimatum to help him realize what he could lose if he fails to commit, but she needs to be sure she’s ready for the possibility of completely losing him if he makes that choice.
Are some men really willing to give up a potentially good woman because they’re afraid of commitment?
Yes, unfortunately, there are some men who are very afraid of commitment, and some will even let a good woman go rather than allow her to force him to commit when he’s not ready.
If a woman is in a relationship with a man and she decides to give him an ultimatum in order to get him to commit, he might just choose to end the relationship.
If the man does choose to end the relationship, the woman should try not to blame herself or take things personally because that marriage probably wouldn’t have worked out anyway.
Some men enjoy having the ability to come and go as they please and doing whatever they want when they want. The thought of being tied down with a wife and possibly children can be anxiety-provoking for many men.
Many men in this situation associate love and marriage with the loss of their freedom.
Other men have committed to a woman before and she broke his heart, so that could be why some men are so hesitant to take that step again.
If a woman isn’t ready to settle down but she wants a physical relationship with a man, there are many prospects.
It’s best if she can propose such a situation with a close male friend if possible.
However, there are many dating websites available that enable a woman to put exactly what she’s looking for in her profile so men are aware upfront.
Although a woman can try spending as little time with her “buddy” as possible outside the bedroom, it can still be quite challenging to simply turn her feelings off.
Sex is an intimate act that brings two people close to one another, and if you’re having sex on a regular basis, your feelings can grow for your guy despite the fact that you want to remain as detached as possible.
Some women (and even men) are simply not sex-only material, as they’re too emotional and prefer real intimacy.
No, she shouldn’t necessarily end her relationship with her sex-only buddy because she’s developing feelings for him.
This is how many successful relationships start out for some people, and while in the beginning, the woman may feel she wasn’t ready for love, perhaps she is ready now.
Maybe the guy she’s having sex with feels the same way, but she will never know if she gets scared and breaks things off. She needs to talk to him.
This can be a very complicated situation, and there is no definitive way to handle it.
Perhaps the woman should break things off with her sex buddy first and then talk to the brother and find out how he feels.
If he feels the same about her, then perhaps they can build a relationship, although things will be awkward in the beginning whenever the ex-sex-only brother is around.
A shallow relationship is more or less the equivalent of a friends-with-benefits relationship.
If you realize that your relationship is shallow and that’s not what you intended it to be, then there are some ways to change things.
If you’d like your relationship to be more committed, then you can talk to the guy and see how he feels. But if he doesn’t want anything serious, then you may need to move on instead of wasting your time.