Breakups are hard to come to terms with. There are probably thoughts rushing through your mind about why he’s left, and how you could get him back.
If you truly want to get back together, he has to miss you. By making him miss you, you’ll give him space to feel what he’s lost – and he’ll think about you even more.
To help transfer the power of “the chase” back to you, read on for 11 fool-proof tips that’ll help him miss you, and help you regain control of your life in the process!
1. Know that he won’t miss you right away.
When we’re fresh out of a breakup, we experience a range of emotions – which is most certainly true for your ex-boyfriend, too. Over time, emotions fade and get replaced with new ones or former ones that come back to the surface.
It’s essential that you don’t anticipate your ex to be full of tears and to come crawling back to you. Instead, it’ll take time for him to miss you and will slowly start feeling those things.
2. Ditch the texting.
We know how difficult it can be not to text him. Going from lots of contact to none at all can feel like you’re experiencing a loss.
It’s horrible waiting for that text to magically appear on your phone or waiting for him to get online. In this scenario, you need to play him at his own game:
- Find someone else to text to replace him, and let him come to you. If his phone is constantly pinging reminders of you, it won’t give him time to miss you.
- Similarly, if he sees your profile picture with an online icon on his social media all the time, he won’t miss you. Try and make your social media profiles appear inactive so that he won’t know when you’re online.
3. Cut off contact.
Stop any contact you have with him through call, text, email, and instant messengers. Silence is key to making him miss you – but most importantly, to getting yourself back and getting over him.
You can’t live in anticipation, hoping he’ll communicate with you. In fact, you have to find who you are again and how you can live a fulfilling life without having his contact to make you feel good.
Doing this will allow you get back on track slowly. Plus, you won’t be accessible – so your ex won’t think he can have you at any time.
4. Start working out.
Exercise is essential for everyone, but even more essential when you’ve experienced a breakup. You’ve probably spent a ton of time doing many things for him, and fewer for yourself. One of the best things you can do for yourself is working out, and feeling comfortable with who you are.
Working out can slowly allow this difficult time to be transformed into a positive one. You can lose weight, and even tone up. You can come out of this breakup looking and feeling like the best version of yourself.
Plus, let’s not forget that exercise releases endorphins, making you feel good and letting you take back control of your own life. You’ll become more relaxed and confident, and ready to take on any problem that comes your way
Exercise is also a good way to shift your focus from him and feel productive. The more you incorporate exercise into your routine, the more you’re substituting thoughts of your ex with something healthier and more productive.
It may take time, but working out will leave you feeling more confident and with a body that he’ll regret dumping!
5. Start socializing again!
Often, when we start dating and get caught up in a relationship, we can quickly neglect the other relationships we’ve had from the very start, like with our friends and family. They’ve been there for you during good and bad times.
Start making time for them again and reconnect. These people love you and appreciate you for a reason, and will certainly give you the emotional support you need.
It can be easy to stay at home crying, and feeling miserable about your breakup. However, these special people will certainly make you feel better and can distract you from thinking about your ex.
Maybe even go a step further, and start dating again! Although you may not want a relationship so soon, flirting with men and receiving flirts back can make you feel great and get your confidence back.
6. Don’t try to change his thoughts.
While you’re probably devastated about the breakup, he has the right to feel the way he did and wanting to break up with you, and you can’t do anything about that.
If you try to, it’ll push him even further away.
- Never try to guilt-trip him with the time and memories you’ve shared together.
- Never try to infuse emotions by telling him you’re going to hurt yourself or try to make him feel worse.
Neither of these methods will work. If by chance you do get back together as a result, it’s only a matter of time before he will want to break up again – and will never forgive you for being forced back into a relationship he doesn’t want to begin with.
7. Become active on social media.
Getting active again on social media will definitely show him what he’s lost.
Take your time to get dolled up – go all out with your hair, makeup and clothes. Get yourself ready for a night out with the girls or even at home – just look hot.
Fill your Instagram and Facebook with hot photos of you looking like you’re having fun. Not only will it fill you with confidence when people to like and comment on your photos, he’ll also see what he’s missing.
Plus, if he sees pictures and videos of you having a fantastic time, then he’ll see that you can live without him – which is actually one of 17 Ways to Instantly Become More Attractive to Men.
8. Hang out with other men.
It’s important to note that this can be a risky move, and could backfire: work on his jealousy, and hang out with other men – whether they’re friends or flings. However, don’t just hang out with them; take photos and put them on social media.
Inform the world about the fun you’re having together and all the activities you’re doing, yet do it in a discreet manner that doesn’t make the fact that you’re trying to make him jealous completely obvious.
This will make your ex see that you’re moving on and closing that chapter you had in your life. He’ll feel that you’re taking action and have control over your life.
As a result, he may want you back and try to get in touch – but if he doesn’t, then at least you’re doing the best you can to get over the breakup. It’s a win-win situation no matter the outcome!
9. Friend-zone him.
You already know not to get in contact with him. But, there may be times he’ll decide to call or text you. If he texts you randomly, don’t message him back instantly – take your time before sending a response.
When you do, treat him like a friend. Don’t give respond with an affectionate tone in your voice and keep your messages short, without any feelings. The sooner he realizes he can’t have what he had, it’ll sting – and cause him to miss you more.
10. Keep yourself busy.
Just like some of the activities mentioned above, it’s time to get busy again. You may want to take more overtime at work, see friends, work out, party, dine out, or do more of anything that fills up your schedule.
If you have time to sit and dwell on your thoughts and emotions, you’ll only miss him even more. Plus, you’ll start reconnecting with the things you love and begin to get stronger day by day.
11. Tell his friends how much you’re loving life.
After the breakup, if you’re out and happen to bump into one of his friends, let them know you’re doing really well.
His friends are close to your him for a reason, and it’s most likely they’ll report back to him when they see you. Make sure his friends see that life is good without him, and you’re moving on.
The Bottom Line
Breakups are hard and difficult to deal with. To learn which breakup you fall into, learn about the 10 different types of breakups.
We know you can experience a range of emotions, but it’s important to remember that these emotions are temporary – and you will be happy again. The best way to do this is by starting to do things for yourself – and as a result, your ex could potentially miss you in the process.
Well, we know you have the potential to come out stronger than this and even stronger without him. If you’re still uncertain, learn why you miss him so much and whether it’s healthy – and check out 18 Ways To Get Over Him As Quickly As Possible to start reclaiming your life!