Knowing whether or not to text a new guy can be confusing. With all the different types of communication out there, is texting a good way to keep him interested?
In general, yes, but there are some factors to consider. You might even wonder how often you should text a guy in order to keep him interested in you.
If the two of you are still in the “getting to know each other” stage, then you might want to text him around 2–3 times a week in order to keep him interested.
You might feel like texting more often, but this could backfire depending on the guy and how often you’re texting.
Once you’re in a more official relationship, of course, the texting rules will change significantly, and you might even text each other several times a day when you make it to that point.
If you’re wondering whether a new guy you’ve been seeing periodically is still interested in you, you can determine this by assessing certain clues.
First of all, if he texts or calls often and wants to see you regularly, then he’s definitely still interested in pursuing a relationship with you.
Also, if he seems very attentive on dates and he kisses you goodnight, then it’s safe to assume that he’s still interested.
Just as it’s easy to determine whether a guy is interested in getting to know you better, it’s also quite easy to determine if he’s not interested any longer.
If he fails to respond to text messages right away, replies in a vague way, or almost never initiates conversations with you either through text or by calling, then he’s likely lost interest.
If he has lost interest in getting to know you better, then you shouldn’t take it personally. Maybe he met someone else or perhaps he has a lot going on in his life.
If a guy rarely responds to text messages but he does call or stop by regularly, then he’s probably one of the many people that doesn’t like relying on text messaging in order to communicate.
However, if he rarely responds to text messages or you’re always the one to initiate the conversation via text message, then he may be busy or simply not interested.
If his lack of interest is bothering you, then you need to talk to him about it so you are both on the same page.
Every couple is different, and while many couples usually prefer texting when they’re not together, others prefer talking on the phone.
If you are big on texting and your new guy would prefer to talk on the phone, instead, then there needs to be a compromise.
If the two of you are able to come to a quick and easy compromise so early in your relationship, then that’s a good indication that you will have the ability to compromise when it comes to more important things in the future if you guys end up in a serious relationship.
Many people are involved in text-only relationships, but even if your new love interest flirt with each other and develop romantic feelings for one another, the relationship will never go anywhere if you never get together and spend time with each other in person.
Even if you two live far away from each other, if you want to be in an official relationship with one another, then you need to make an effort to see each other as often as you can.
Long-distance relationships can be very successful, but not if the two people continue communicating by text only and never make plans to see each other in person.
Before there were cell phones, people were forced to either see each other in person, mail a letter to the person they cared about, or talk on the phone.
The ability to send text messages is not always a good thing, despite being fun and convenient, because text messages can be incredibly impersonal.
In addition to being impersonal, text messages can be misconstrued. You may accidentally offend the guy that you’re interested in if he misinterprets what you meant incorrectly.
It is very possible for a woman to scare off a new guy by texting too often, especially if he’s still trying to process his feelings and determine where he wants the relationship to go.
In the beginning, you shouldn’t initiate a conversation by text message (or by calling him) more than 2–3 times each week.
More often than that, you could make yourself appear desperate.
No woman wants to appear desperate and needy, so just try to follow his lead when it comes to the frequency of your text messages.
If you’re trying to determine how to keep a guy interested via text message, then you also need to figure out what you’re going to say in those actual text messages.
If you’re at the very beginning of the “getting to know each other stage” with a guy, you don’t want to be too expressive or appear too desperate to get involved.
Avoid saying things like “I love you,” “I want to have your babies,” or “I will make you a great wife one day,” in your text messages because this could scare him off before he has the chance to get to know you and determine whether he wants to possibly marry you or have children with you.
There are many couples that prefer texting to talking because of the convenience of texting.
Texting is quick and easy, and you can quickly send a person a message in the same amount of time it would take to dial their phone number.
Text messages can be sent whether you’re at work, in church, or even in a courtroom, which are times when most people are unable to engage in a phone conversation.
There are many ways that texting could become a problem in a relationship.
First of all, if a person’s significant other is always on his or her phone texting other people instead of paying attention to them, then this could definitely create a problem.
This would also cause a problem in a relationship if a person is texting an ex or someone else in whom they’re romantically interested.
As long as a woman isn’t saying things that might scare him off, there really are no other strict rules.
The woman should simply be herself and send text messages that are friendly, focused on getting to know the new guy, and tell him a little bit about her.
At the very beginning, she shouldn’t reveal anything too personal about herself, as she should wait until they know each other a bit better and have gone out a few times, especially if they really like each other.
If a woman is really concerned about keeping a guy interested in her, then she shouldn’t stress.
It doesn’t matter what she wears on dates, as long as it’s appropriate for the activities they’re going to be participating in.
Some people worry too much about how to act, what to do, or what to say when dating a new person, but if they’re able to relax and be themselves then they’re likely to be a lot more successful.
Texting can be a great way to keep a guy interested but it is important to consider how often you text him, especially in the beginning.
First of all, if your new guy likes sending you frequent text messages, then he likely expects you to text him just as often.
However, if you only hear from him a few times a week via text, then you should do the same until things become more serious in the relationship.