Loving someone who doesn’t love you back can be hard – but loving someone who doesn’t even notice you is worse.
One of the most difficult aspects of being a woman is getting a man to notice you. If you approach a guy, you risk appearing desperate – and if you don’t, you’re given no choice but to wait and wait.
It is always a little disappointing not to get noticed by the guy you’ve been crushing on for ages. However, the good news is, guys are pretty straightforward when it comes to acknowledging and confessing their feelings.
You don’t have to make the first move or even put in more effort in wooing the guy you like. All you really need to do is to get him to notice you – and he’ll do the rest!
Keep reading for 20 fool-proof ways to get his attention, without seeming desperate.
1. Love the Way You Look
One of the first things you should concentrate on is learning how to love yourself. This doesn’t mean becoming a narcissist who can’t talk about anything but herself.
Loving who you are and being comfortable in your skin means that you walk with your head held high and a warm smile on your face, ready to take on the world.
After all, there’s nothing quite as attractive as a woman who knows her self-worth!
2. Take Care of Yourself
While a great chunk of loving yourself is emotional, looking good on the outside undoubtedly influences the way we feel about ourselves.
Nobody expects you to have washboard abs or have legs that go on for days (but if you do, that’s amazing too!). However, it’s important to maintain yourself, wear makeup that flatters you, and take care of your hair, skin, nails, and teeth, etc.
Take time to pamper yourself, remember to maintain good health and self-care, and go out of your way to make yourself happy.
3. Have a Sense of Humor
A beautiful woman that everyone notices is warm and jovial. She won’t hesitate in chuckling at jokes and making some of her own.
One surefire way to have your man see you as irresistible is to have a sense of humor. While you shouldn’t try too hard or look like an unemployed stand-up comic, it’s advisable to poke harmless fun and laugh at jokes made at your expense.
4. Have Flirty Body Language Around Him
Having flirtatious body language is often the surest option to get a guy’s attention. Playing with your hair or rubbing your neck will be interpreted as playfully sexy body language by all men, especially the one you’re doing it for.
Most importantly, stand tall and be confident. Fidgeting with your dress or jewelry all the time can be interpreted as high-functioning anxiety. Men are more likely to notice a woman who radiates an aura of self-assured sexuality than a girl who avoids eye contact.
5. Make a Good First Impression
Although many people like to claim they don’t judge anyone by first impressions, the opposite seems more accurate. While most of us don’t make impressions in a judgmental way, making impressions of people is how most of us make sense of the world around us.
So, when it comes time for first impressions, try to put your most desirable foot forward.
6. Be Just the Right Kind of Flirty
Once you feel like you’ve started a fire in the heart of the man you have your eye on, you should take your pursuit to the next level. While your interactions don’t need to be trite, they can definitely be a combination of charming and flirtatious.
Taking the flirting too far at this point may lead to desperation. Instead of telling him directly that you think he’s hot, speak in hushed tones so he can’t help but lean closer to you.
7. Don’t Come Off As Desperate
To avoid being needy or desperate, don’t keep walking past him to get his attention or talking extremely loud near him so that he hears about the tons of dates you’ve been on lately. It’s never a good idea to stare at him till he feels creeped out.
Do catch his eye and flash a brief smile before quickly returning to your desk or to your friends. Be flirty, yet subtle.
8. Don’t Seek Everyone’s Attention
Some women may try too hard to attract the man they desire, and as a result, they become attention seekers – which the man will notice.
While it’s great to have strong friendships with people of the opposite gender, don’t be too crowded by men. It’ll make the man you want feel like you’re not available.
9. Wear an Irresistible Perfume
Much like wolves, men understand the magic of smell. Try out perfumes that you like and wear your most seductive one, especially when interacting with him.
While they may forget what you said, they’ll remember the perfume you were wearing because it’ll imprint on his mind and his heart.
10. Flaunt Your Curves in a Fun Manner
Dressing like you love yourself means that you should wear whatever you want, whenever you’d like. Everyone has their own style, and there’s no right or wrong way to do it.
It’s also essential to dress in something that makes you feel good and reflects you. In a crowd of women, a secure woman in her beauty and style will stand out.
So whether you like to wear loose-fitted clothing or the tightest, sexiest Bodycon dresses – you do you!
11. Make Eye Contact
Making eye contact with your crush when he’s speaking to you shows that you care and are genuinely interested in what he has to say. Who wouldn’t want that?
Make eye contact when you gently brush his arm during a conversation, hug him, or sit next to him instead of across from him. Your body language communicates that you’re interested in him but aren’t desperate.
12. Be Playful and Spontaneous
Playfulness is another fascinating quality to have. If you’re playful and spontaneous, he’ll see you as an exotic person that he never gets bored of.
By being playful and spontaneous, you remind him of carefree, youthful days – and let’s be honest, who doesn’t want to be wild and carefree?
13. Be So Positive That it’s Infectious
Being upbeat and optimistic about your life is so much more important than getting a guy’s attention. It is a positive habit to include in your life.
The kind of infectious positivity that comes from the walking-on-clouds kind of attitude helps keep you healthy and keep all the happy chemicals in your brain flowing.
14. Give Him a Compliment
People love receiving compliments. In fact, most of us are so starved for appreciation that we’d take a shower in compliments if it would help us regain our self-confidence again.
While your compliments don’t have to be over-the-top or ridiculous, complimenting your crush on a new haircut or an assignment he did well can be just the thing to get him to notice you.
15. Be Interesting
Interesting people will often draw the attention of others because they invoke a sense of curiosity. If you want to be irresistible, cultivate your own interests and be vocal about them.
If the guy is worth it, he’ll start taking an interest in what you’re interested in.
16. Laugh at His Jokes (But Not Too Much)
If your man is one of the “class clowns” who loves making everyone around him laugh, seize the opportunity just how well you understand his jokes and how much you enjoy them. This will make him see a lighthearted, jolly girl who prefers the lighter side of life.
17. Follow Him on Instagram
With so many people glued to their phones these days, being his friend or following him on social networking sites is a perfect way to get his attention. If you follow him, there’s a good chance he’ll follow you back.
18. Slide Into His DMs
Once you’re mutuals on social media sites, it is time to start trying to get him to notice you. So, when he makes a post you find interesting, don’t forget to share your thoughts or say something motivating or encouraging. Once he sees you how cool you are, it’s all uphill from there.
19. Take an Interest in His Interests
He has his own set of interests and hobbies, and one way to get him to notice you is to take an interest in the things he’s passionate about. For example, if he likes to hike, try out a new hiking route as well.
Don’t forget to put pictures of it on your social media so you have something to talk about when you meet again.
20. Talk to Him About Something You’re Passionate About
While it’s important to care about his interests, no relationship can be successful without mutual curiosity. If you ever get the chance to interact with him, strike up a conversation about the things you like to do so he sees you as more than a two-dimensional pretty face.
While it may seem too simple to be true, men are simple creatures – and you don’t have to do a lot to get them to see you.
The Bottom Line
Often women over complicate getting noticed by their crush and end up trying too hard or being too hip to be noticed. If you don’t convince them you’re worth remembering, they won’t notice you.
The great news about getting a guy to notice you is that just because a guy hasn’t noticed you yet doesn’t mean he never will.
Make an impression, smile, and engage in conversation, and don’t be hesitant to be a little silly every now and then.
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