If you’re in a relationship with someone spiritual, it’s important to know what they believe. This way, when the time comes for you and your partner to discuss something that’s on their mind or if there is an issue that needs to be resolved, you’ll have a better understanding of where they stand.
The Importance of Talking about Spirituality With Your Partner
Spirituality is a central part of your identity and the way you live. If you don’t communicate your beliefs with your significant other, it may lead to problems in the relationship because they may think that spirituality isn’t important to you (or vice versa).
There are many types of spirituality, ranging from religious or non-religious practices – including meditation, mindfulness, and more. It’s always worth discussing what type someone identifies more closely with when talking about their spiritual life.
Spirituality can be practiced no matter where you are in life and when you’re feeling at your lowest. Those who practice a spiritual lifestyle often feel more connected to nature, other people, themselves, their past lives, etc.
Questions that Can Help Spark Conversations About Spirituality
- Do you believe in the existence of a higher being?
2. Do you believe in the afterlife?
3. Do you have a sense of purpose in life?
4. What is the meaning of your existence?
5. Are human beings inherently good or evil by nature?
6. Do you think we are more likely to be innately good people who occasionally make mistakes or naturally bad people who sometimes try their best? Why?
7. We can’t always control our actions. If this is true, then what does it mean for us as individuals and as members of society when things go wrong?
8. How should we react if someone makes an innocent mistake that has negative consequences on others’ lives?
9. What do you think happens to us when we die? What is your idea of heaven and hell?
10. Is there an objective moral code that exists independently from human beings – or are morals subjective based on cultural norms and what society expects people to do (i.e. humanism)?
11. What implications does this have for how we should live our lives if morals are subjective rather than objective and independent from humans?
12. How would you describe yourself spiritually: Christian, atheist, Buddhist, Hindu, Jewish, etc.?
13. Why did you choose that label for yourself as opposed to another one?
14. Do you ever feel conflicted between different labels/beliefs?
15. What does your idea of God look like: male, female, more than one gender, not human-like or humanoid in any way? Why do you think that is?
16. What are your thoughts about spirituality in the workplace, school, and other settings where people don’t seem to have time for things like meditation or prayer?
17. Does modern society encourage being spiritual or is it discouraged?
18. Do you think all of life’s difficulties can be overcome with spirituality (i.e., facing death)?
19. Do you find that spiritual tools help but aren’t always enough because there are some difficulties that nobody can get through alone – no matter how many mantras we say or prayers we make?
20. If you’re spiritual but not religious, does it make sense to call yourself an atheist? Or would you still consider yourself spiritually inclined even if your beliefs are outside of organized religions?
21. Do you believe there are other living things out there besides humans on Earth and animals (i.e. aliens)? How would that affect the existence of a higher being to whom we pray for guidance?
22. What if other life exists but don’t have souls – or don’t worship this deity because they’re evil beings with no morality at all? Would it be wrong to ask them for guidance then?
23. What are your thoughts on the afterlife and reincarnation?
24. Do you think that our souls will be reunited with relatives who passed away in a future life or not until we reach an eternal state of existence after death (i.e., heaven)? Why do you believe this?
25. Do you have any experiences with spirits (i.e., encounters where they communicated to us)? What did they say/do when they contacted you?
26. Do you believe in luck?
27. What is your understanding of the universe and how it works?
28. How do you explain the different religions, traditions, or beliefs that exist on earth if there was only one God who created everything?
29. Can a person be moral without believing in any god or religion at all (agnostic)?
30. Do you believe that there is an objective moral code?
31. What are your thoughts on materialism and greed?
32. Why is it so important for us as humans to clothe ourselves with something that represents our beliefs?
33. Is there anything truly random about this universe at all, or is everything predetermined – down to every flutter of a butterfly’s wings?
34. Does it matter what religion I practice if I’m trying to be moral?
35. Are religions just different paths leading up to one god anyway?
36. How do you deal with disagreements between various religions?
37. How would someone try to reconcile two differing beliefs? Would love suffice as an explanation and a means of coming to terms?
38. How can someone who is nonreligious find peace in troubling acts, such as rape and murder, when these things go against his morals?
39. Do people have free will to truly make their own choices without being influenced by outside forces such as Divine Intervention?
40. Why does it seem to some that people are just pawns on a chessboard, moved about by some unseen force and controlled as pawns in a much bigger spiritual game?
41. Do you think only one truth out about how people should dress (i.e., women must cover up their bodies) is troublesome?
42. What are your opinions or ideas about modesty?
43. Does it bother you that people believe in different things from one another?
44. What do you think about the idea of “sin,” and how does it affect your life?”
45. Do you have any thoughts on what constitutes sin?
46. Where is the line between right or wrong drawn?
47. How do we know when we’re living sinful lives?”
48. Why are some sins (such as homosexuality) considered worse than others (like murder, greed, stealing, etc.)? Why should they be judged more harshly given what we now know?
49. Why discriminate against homosexuals if all those other acts that are done with intent result in harm?
50. What can I do so my partner won’t judge gay couples or feel uncomfortable around them?
51. Each individual has their own interpretation of what “spiritual” means, including belief systems even outside of religion – so does that mean spirituality is impossible to define?
52. What does it mean to have faith? Is it when you are certain something will happen or exist even though there’s no proof of it yet?
53. What do you think about when someone says they’re having an existential crisis?
54. Do you see yourself as religious and spiritual at the same time?
55. What is your definition of religion, spirituality, and atheism from a personal perspective?
56. How would one define their relationship with God differently than how others might define theirs (ex: not baptized in Christianity = being spiritually lost for some)?
57. Where do we draw the line between fundamentalism and just believing that our religion is the true one?
58. What do you think about people who say they are atheists but still have a personal relationship with a religious figure? How does it work for them if there’s no promise of salvation at the end?
59. Do you feel any sense of connection with nature – such as the trees, animals, and earth?
60. What would cause somebody to be spiritual when it comes to nature as opposed to being just naturalistic/scientifically minded?
61. Do you feel more spiritually connected now because we’re all aware of our interconnectedness on social media?
62. How much does the practice of meditation or mindfulness affect your spiritual life?
63. What are some of the questions you have about spirituality?
64. How do you think spiritual beliefs affect relationships?
65. What are your thoughts about how spirituality and science can sometimes seem to contradict each other?
67. The word “spirit” seems to have different meanings across cultures. Do you know what it means where I come from?
68. How could we reconcile our cultural differences if I don’t want my definition of spirit to be diluted with concepts taken from another culture’s understanding?
69. Does modern society encourage being spiritual or is it discouraged?
70. What are your thoughts about spirituality in the workplace, school, and other settings where people don’t seem to have time for things like meditation or prayer?
71. Is being spiritual something a person chooses to be at any point in their lives, as opposed to just having an innate sense of connection?
72. Does spirituality have to do with having higher aspirations for oneself than just making money and living comfortably – or is this separate from religion and faith?
73. If you’re spiritual but not religious, does it make sense to call yourself an atheist because the word “spiritual” may be too loaded for some people?
74. What about agnostics – what type of belief system would they fall under in terms of being spiritual but not religious?
The Bottom Line
Spirituality is a term that can cover many different aspects – but has broad definitions and meanings. Just because there are differences in people’s faiths doesn’t mean they’re not spiritual or don’t have their own personal connection to the Divine.
It would be easier for everyone if we all just respected each other’s beliefs instead of trying to argue about which one was right – and the same goes for your partner. The 74 questions above will help you connect and understand one another on a deeper level.