When it comes to sex, most of us are as clueless as we were on day one. This is because we have no real formula to calculate what constitutes “good sex” and how to be the best at it. Because sex also has a social taboo associated with it, it’s hard to determine what makes one good at sex or how to get better at it.
Knowing the most common signs a man shows when he’s attracted to you, especially in bed, takes the confusion out of the situation. You won’t have to constantly wonder if he’s into you, and you can choose whether you want to be the first to make a confident move.
Here are some surefire signs that guys are really turned on by you in bed:
1. You Make Him Blush
He turns tomato-red whenever he comes into contact with you. He’s madly in love with you, and despite his best efforts, he’s not hiding it very well.
The wait is driving him insane, and he has no control over his body’s reactions or hormones. The best way to know you drive a man crazy in bed is by seeing how red hot his face becomes.
2. He Makes a Lot of Eye Contact
When men are turned on, they become flustered and flushed. They start undressing you with their eyes and making you feel incredibly hot. Even if he’s still a little shy to tell you that you turn him on, that doesn’t stop him from munching his eyes on you.
He can’t stop thinking about how great you look without your clothes.
3. He Keeps Bringing Up Sex in Conversation
He appears to be unable to avoid the subject of sex. He attaches everything you say to sex.
He either transforms it into a joke or continues to make sexual references in everything you say. He’s horny as hell, and you’re his primary target.
4. His Eyes Grow Big
According to experts, if he’s romantically interested in you, his pupils will dilate when he speaks to you. Aim to analyze his pupils under the spotlight while he’s talking to you. If they are larger than they should be, he’s certainly turned on by you.
5. He’s Undressing You With His Eyes
Men are visual creatures. They like what they see and there isn’t a single part of your body he hasn’t searched and analyzed. He understands how you walk and talk. When you’re not looking, he’s inspecting you from head to toe, taking in all your compelling, sexual beauty.
6. He Doesn’t Leave Your Side
A really basic way to know he is attracted to you is by seeing how many excuses he makes just to be a little closer to you. He agrees to do dull and pointless tasks that no one else would do just to be in your company.
7. He Forgets What He’s Saying
When a man gets turned on, the rest of his senses slow down to have his focus on the one thing that matters. If he’s turned on by you, his speech becomes sloppy and sensual. It’s almost as if time has stopped around you, and you’re both centered on this one heated moment.
8. His Voice Will Deepen and Become Huskier
Newsflash: An unusually husky voice in bed is the best indicator that your man is into you. You can bet that once you take things to the next level, you’ll get even more of it. Bonus points if you tell him how sexy it makes him sound.
9. He Constantly Bites His Lips
Another great way to tell if you turn a guy on is by looking at his lips. He’s not only centered on your mouth, but he’s doing things on his own. Maybe he’s licking or chewing his lips more than usual.
This is especially true if he intends to kiss you. It’s time to prepare for an incredible kiss if he pulls out the lip balm.
10. He Looks for Any Excuse to Touch You
His hands, like his gaze, indicate what he intends to do. His hands will be all over you, especially on any skin exposed. If he’s a true gent, he’ll keep the touches PG-13 at most until it’s evident that both of you are looking for more.
If he cannot manage to get through the rest of the night without taking his hand away, you can bet he wants to get in your pants.
11. He’ll Find it Hard to Look Away
Take a close look at his eyes. A glance can convey a lot to men. A sultry, smoldering appearance will send a rush of adrenaline up your spine. Those eyes don’t lie, nor do the goosebumps that have appeared on your legs and arms.
12. He’ll Be Jumpy and Can’t Stay Put
He wants to cut through all the pretense and go straight for what he wants: you. He’ll constantly have to restrain himself from pouncing on you like an uncontrollable animal.
13. Your Instincts Will Be Spot On
Remember the female instincts that tell you if someone likes you? Trust them.
If you generally feel that this guy is really into you, you’re probably right. Don’t dismiss that nagging feeling in your gut. Even if you can’t put your finger on it, there’s something about you that attracts the constant contact you’re currently experiencing. Go with it and take action to see how accurate you are.
14. He Tells You How Sexy You Are
Not all guys are willing to be so forthcoming, but if you find one of the smart ones, you’ll never have to question what’s on his mind.
He takes the initiative and tells you what he wants to do with you without prodding. Once you arrive, this type of guy is likely to have some exciting conversation with you.
15. He Encourages You Try New Positions
One way to know you’re great in bed is when someone tells you they want to try more stuff with you. Think about it: if the usual positions have reached their apex of pleasure, the natural next step is to try positions you have never tried before.
16. He Texts You About It
Ever received a text after a date from a man who tells you he had a lot of fun, and that he can’t stop thinking about you? If this guy enjoys being with you in bed, he’ll text you about how he can’t stop thinking about your body.
Men are not coy about sex. If he enjoyed it, he would let you know.
17. He Sits With His Legs Outstretched
This is an intriguing sign that a man is attracted to you because it interacts with his manhood. According to studies, men “assert their dominance” – especially around women – by sitting or standing with their legs apart. Considering what’s between those legs, it’s no surprise he’s posturing!
A self-assured man may even be wishing you’ll look at what’s going on between those legs. It is entirely up to you whether or not you take it seriously.
18. His Underpants Become Tight
We all know men are all about actions, not words. What could be a better sign you kill it in the sack than actual proof of it? If just sitting with him turns him on, making him pitch a tent in his underwear, there’s no better way to be sure that you have this man hooked to your body.
What Turns Men On in Bed?
Having confidence may entail leaving the lights on, going completely naked, or wearing something extremely sexy. You seize command of the situation. You’re outspoken. You have a lot of energy. You can sense their desire for you!
Confidence in the bedroom can turn your spouse on even more because they know you’re not afraid to show your sexuality when they’re around. Here are some of the things that will turn him on in the bedroom:
1. You Enjoy Sex
People may have different ideas about what constitutes good sex. However, a simplistic measure of knowing you’re great in bed can be how much you enjoy sex.
2. You Know How to Help Yourself in Bed
A good person in bed doesn’t completely rely on their partner to get them off.
A woman who has investigated her own body and knows how to bring herself to orgasm can pretty much steer any man who is not “naturally intuitive” in the ways of satisfying her. A sexually experienced woman doesn’t simply sit back and let things happen.
Most people don’t want an excessively submissive partner, so it’s perfectly fine to help yourself reach your apex if you know what that entails.
3. You Aim to Please
Though many people’s primary objective during sex is to get gratification, someone who is awesome in bed is often more interested in pleasing.
A great lover is always willing to give as much as they receive. They’re always trying to outdo their partner’s attempt to satisfy them. In fact, a good lover is never extremely happy if he or she is aware that their partner did not fully savor their session.
Having a partner who is more worried about pleasing you is appealing to most people – so imagine the outcomes if both partners share this mindset.
4. You Adapt to the Mood
Another way to ensure that you’re doing it correctly is by being observant and vocal during sex.
Everyone enjoys hearing the sounds of their partner having a good time. A good lover notices what makes their partner moan and breathe heavily, as well as how their body responds to things they do for them, to them, and with them.
A good lover isn’t “stuck” on a few go-to moves that they use with every companion.
5. You’re Difficult (if Not Impossible) to Forget
Most of us have been involved with somebody who was simply phenomenal in bed, but we had the good sense to move on for various reasons.
However, when we’re alone or with a new partner, we occasionally have memories and recollections of our encounters with them. A great lover is difficult to forget.
6. You Ask Him What He Likes and Aren’t Afraid to Give it to Him
The problem with being good in bed is that there is no universal level of expertise. Everyone you date will have unique needs, desires, and likes, and dislikes. Great lovers don’t presume that just because something worked for a previous partner that it’ll work for someone else
The Bottom Line
A guy being turned on by you is great. If that’s all you want out of the relationship, that’s incredible too. However, if you’re looking for something more, there are several methods for transforming a sexual attachment into an emotional one.
- First and foremost, make an effort not to give sex away so that the other person develops a desire for it.
- Communicate your needs to the partner you want to gain a critical correlation with.
- Go on dates to get to know each other on a more personal level. This will develop into a profound bond over time, and the sexual connection will be the icing!
There’s a good chance he will want to give it a whirl – because if the mutual attraction in bed is good, it’s worth it!