How do you know your guy loves you when he hasn’t said it yet? Some men are notoriously slow at saying the three words women want to hear.
While no one needs help interpreting grand gestures, the subtle things a guy says or does can come across as ambiguous.
Are you wondering your guy is falling in love with you? There are always ways he shows his love without ever saying a word.
Here are 21 signs that he’s in love with you and what that means for your relationship.
1. He loves being around you
…and isn’t afraid to show it or say it. You know that he loves your company because he stands close to you, listens to you carefully, laughs at your jokes, and makes plans to spend more time with you. He shows that he cares and makes you a priority.
When you need to see him, you never need to ask twice. Things are easy and straightforward with him.
2. He won’t stop smiling
A guy who’s smitten can’t stop grinning in your presence. You make him giddy, and you know it’s because he deeply cares about you. The way you smile at your phone when you get a text from him is the exact way he smiles too.
3. He uses the word “love”
Okay, he won’t say that he loves you yet, but he might as well have because he uses the word “love” very often in relation to things you say or do.
“I love that!”
“I’d love to see you!”
“I loved doing that!”
He’s clearly comfortable using the word often to describe your time spent together, now he just needs to gather up the courage and tell you he loves you.
4. It’s in his kiss
Remember the classic Cher song, It’s in his kiss? That’s exactly right! It might not be purely scientific, but if love was a science, you’d be able to tell straight away by the way he kisses you.
Every time he comes close for a kiss, you feel goosebumps. He kisses you like he means it because he does.
5. His ex-girlfriend doesn’t even exist anymore
In the figurative meaning of the word…he’s completely over his ex and has got eyes only for you. No one in his past compares to you enough for him to bring them up. You know that he isn’t wasting his time stalking his ex on social media.
6. His body language is different around you
Not only does he make frequent eye contact with you, but his posture also changes in your company. He stands up taller and wants to appear more attractive. He strokes his hair to set it in place and seems a lot more alert and livelier when you are there.
A guy who doesn’t care what you think about him, will slouch and not change his appearance for you. Your guy, though, wants you to know he’s got feelings for you.
Another sign he’s really into you is that he mirrors you. Mirroring is a physical act that can become subconscious. It can be as subtle as leaning across the table a few seconds after you do, or as obvious as starting to listen to the same music you do.
A guy who’s in love wants to connect with you on all levels, so he will naturally seek ways to find out more about you.
7. He lends a helping hand
When a guy loves you, he wants to make sure he’s there for you. So, it’s the perfect opportunity to get him to drive you to the airport, fix that leaky tap, or hang up a shelf in your flat.
He’d gladly do it and won’t complain – he’s thrilled that you ask for his help.
8. He seeks your opinion on everything
Another sign that a guy is in love with you when he hasn’t said it yet is that he seeks your opinion on things. He listens when you speak and seems to find everything you say fascinating. It’s so refreshing!
9. He chooses you over his friends
A guy who’s in love will prioritize you over his friends and choose to do things just with you, rather than in a group. He just wants you all to himself!
10. He introduces you to his family
This is probably one of the most telling signs early in the relationship. The guy you’re dating wants you to meet the other most important woman in his life – his mom. This speaks volumes! He is committed to you and loves you. He is proud to show you his family.
11. He texts you randomly throughout the day
No time is too random for a man who’s got feelings for you. Mid-day texts asking about your day are a given. Late-night musings and texting first thing in the morning with “good morning beautiful” are his thing.
He always has an excuse to text you – asking you a question or recommending a movie to see together. He uses every opportunity to stay connected.
12. He’s your biggest fan
A guy who’s in love with you will brag to everyone about your accomplishments. He’s proud of you and always roots for you. It’s amazing to have someone who cares so much about your success and reminds you of how great you are.
13. He spends hours choosing the perfect gift
It’s hard to shop for someone you don’t know very well. But when it’s for someone that you think about all the time, it’s exciting! This man spends hours researching and then shopping for the perfect gift – for your birthday, Christmas, or just because.
No amount of effort or time is too much when you love someone and want to make them happy.
14. He misses you when you are apart
A big sign he’s in love with you is how much he misses you when you are apart. Whether it’s for a long work trip or just the weekend, he texts you often and wants to Facetime a lot. You know he can’t wait to have you back.
15. He brings out the best in you
Being with someone who loves you means that you want to do well and make them proud. You feel empowered by his love and as a result, you are a better version of yourself when you are with him. You know this guy is worth it because you like who you are when you are together.
16. He involves you in big decisions
When you love someone, you involve them in the big decisions that you make – and your boyfriend certainly does that. He seeks your opinion and advice and doesn’t respond to situations as if he’s a single guy. He plans for the future, and you know he sees you in that future.
For example, if he gets a job offer in another city, he talks to you first rather than just accepting it.
17. He doesn’t give up
If he had one foot out of the door, he’d bail at the first relationship hurdle and wouldn’t think twice about it. You know he’s committed because he doesn’t just give up when another guy would.
He doesn’t seek an easy way out; he is in it for the long haul and fully invested in a future with you.
18. He adores you
A man who loves you makes you feel desirable. Even when you feel ugly and want to pick your appearance apart, he reminds you that you are perfect. You know you can be authentically and unapologetically yourself with him.
He finds you just as sexy first thing in the morning as he does when you’re all glammed up. You see yourself through his eyes and you feel more confident about your looks. That’s the power of a man in love.
19. He notices the little things
When a guy is falling for you, he’s all about the little details. He never stops getting to know you or making an effort to impress you. That includes really noticing:
- What’s going on in your life and at work
- When you’re feeling down and need extra support
- The things you like and dislike
- When you’ve had a tough day and need to feel looked after and spoiled
He surprises you with tickets to your favorite band before you even know they’ve gone on sale. This man is in love with you and no gesture is too big for him. Show him that you appreciate him noticing the little details.
20. He gives you the space you need
A man who loves you knows that he can only ever stay in your company if he respects your boundaries and allows you to still love the parts of your life without him. He encourages you to see your friends and doesn’t make a fuss about it.
21. He makes you feel loved
At the end of the day, a man who loves you – even when he hasn’t said it yet – will show you all the verbal and non-verbal signs of his love. He will make sure you know that he’s got feelings for you.
That means doing things right – looking after you, supporting you, building a deeper connection.
A man who’s in love carries himself differently. His priorities change. He’s empowered by love and more confident. Everyone will be able to see that he loves you, even if you have doubts because he hasn’t said it yet.
Don’t worry – different people have different paces. He needs to say it when it is right for him.
What to do if you’ve said it but he hasn’t yet?
It can be tricky if partners say “I love you” at different times. In fact, there are so many movies and tv shows that depict exactly this situation, from Star Wars to Sex Education, because it’s such a difficult one.
Cinema and TV always make a big deal out of this situation because it can be so awkward. But don’t worry if you want to tell him that you love him. You shouldn’t stop yourself just because you are afraid that he won’t say it back.
This goes both ways. If he finally says he loves you, but you don’t feel like you can say it back, don’t make it weird. The best thing to do is to kiss him and show him how you feel. When it’s right for you, you’ll say it back.
To conclude, it’s important to remember that saying “I love you” isn’t the ultimate goal of a relationship. Try not to fixate on it, especially if it’s been a few months since you started dating.
Last but not least, don’t make comments about it or joke about it with your friends – this can embarrass him. You don’t know why he hasn’t said it yet. If he’s a great boyfriend and shows his love every day, not saying those three words isn’t a deal-breaker.