Every terrific guy wants to date an equally great woman – so she has quite a few choices when so many eligible men try to date her. She can have her pick of the most eligible bachelor because – well, there are just so many to choose from.
What guys consider a chase isn’t actually a chase; it’s the girl’s method of analyzing the options and choosing the one who appears most committed and most willing to demonstrate his love for her.
When a great guy ultimately “wins”, he feels like he’s superior to the other guys. What a great boost to his ego! he feels like he’s just won a great prize. The thrill of the chase – and eventually, “winning over” the woman of his dreams, is why most men love to chase women.
So, why not make him chase you? He’ll be more invested in you, and will want to do things to win you over – making it a “win-win” situation! Keep reading for 20 ways to get him to start chasing you.
1. Be a master of psychological games.
Most men like to play games – and it makes the prospect of relationships more attractive. These are hot and cold men; sometimes they’ll make you feel on top of the world while other times, you might feel absolutely invisible.
The best course of action is to reciprocate. Two can play at their game! If he wants to make you feel unwanted, you do the same. If he takes hours to text you back, you should take days.
Be the one who is chased – not the one who does the chasing.
2. Be mysterious.
Quit being an open book if you want to have the guy chase after you. Make sure you don’t divulge too much information about yourself all at once. Avoid disclosing everything whenever you communicate or are in contact with him.
Instead, gradually reveal yourself to him to pique his attention. He should be fascinated as each layer of your personality is revealed to him. He’ll become more interested in this wonderful individual, and the chase will become more enjoyable for him.
Here’s a complete guide to the 22 Ways to Be More Mysterious in Your Relationship to help you started.
3. Sit back and relax.
If you’re the type who likes to single-mindedly pursue all that you like, the thought of sitting and waiting may seem strange. Even though it’s challenging, this is one of the most effective ways to get a guy to chase you.
Appreciate that the goal is for the guy to recognize your worth, and pursue you.
4. Don’t get complacent.
Even if you win him over, you’ll want him to keep trying to go after the prize (read: you). It’s all too easy to fall into a pattern with your partner. Keep your man guessing about what you’re going to do next.
Keep the relationship interesting by not growing used to it. If your boyfriend doesn’t return your feelings, it’s time to either move on or speak up.
It’s not simple to keep him following after you, but it’s doable. Ensure that the effort and respect you give to him are reciprocated.
5. Have an incredible life, outside of the relationship.
Men want to be in a relationship with women who live lifestyles they admire. Your life will be more intriguing if you have more enthusiasm. If your private life is boring, you won’t be able to enjoy the dating game.
Any female can be physically gorgeous and still have no men interested in being with her. When it comes to settling down, men are drawn to more than physical appearance.
6. Flirt more!
Flirting with a man can make him chase after you (although it’s important to avoid overdoing it). Make sure you’re looking him in the eyes, but don’t stare him down. When speaking with him, playfully touch his hand, and stroke your hair as you laugh at his jokes.
Make sure that whatever action you take is understated and not exaggerated. The idea is to demonstrate an interest in him rather than desperation. If you do it forcefully, it’ll just defeat the purpose, since he won’t understand why he should chase you.
7. Take it slow.
Don’t make the mistake of hurrying out of the “single status”. Being single is a wonderful time in a woman’s life since you have the freedom to develop yourself, without being pushed one way or the other.
You’ll have plenty of time to realize your ambitions while still having the chance to find the proper person, which is one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make.
When you’re desperate to end your single status, you’ll start pressing for commitment almost immediately – most likely with the first decent guy you meet – and you won’t ever get a man to chase you.
8. Don’t sleep with him right away.
One mistake that girls often make when it comes to relationships is that they give romantic affection too easily. If this is a man who likes to play games, it’s time that you do that too.
Make sure you know the 10 things guys think after you sleep with them. While it’s completely fine to decide how far into the relationship you’re ready for physical intimacy, it does make sense that you withhold sex from a guy who only sees you as a conquest.
When you play hard to get, he sees you as a challenge – and as a conquest worth pursuing.
9. Don’t make him feel special.
Has this man-made you feel desperate and hopeless about the future of your relationship?
Does he ask you not to label it?
Does he insinuate that he doesn’t see a future with you?
Is he someone who makes you beg for affection or even respect?
If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, then you should realize that this is a man who isn’t worth your time and effort.
Sit back and let him do the work. Don’t make him feel special or laud him with praise and affection. Let him starve for your love – and watch how he comes running back to you.
10. Look incredible.
Men are visual animals, and there’s no denying that. They love what they see and make a beeline for it without putting in too much thought. If you want this man to chase you past mountains, you’ve got to look the part.
Being sexy is not just about changing your physical appearance to be more desirable. The objective is to enhance your natural beauty, while also improving your sensuality.
This means that you don’t need to sport lingerie all the time. Rather, you just need to carry yourself in a way that makes him realize you’d look drop-dead gorgeous if you ever did wear lingerie.
11. Show him you’re perfectly fine without him.
Unfortunately for our generation, the more emotionally available you seem, the less inclined men are to date you. They label you things like ‘clingy,’ ‘mopey,’ or someone who doesn’t have a life of their own.
Show this man who can’t seem to value you just how valuable you are. Fill your social media with posts and pictures of how wild and exciting your life is, and how he was just dead weight bringing you down. It works like a charm every single time!
12. Show your naughty side.
Sex is an incredible tool of persuasion. It makes these men fall into line and move mountains to show how much they desire you.
Send him a nude – or a photo in which you look irresistibly sexy – out of the blue, and make it seem as though it wasn’t meant for him. Apologize and say, “Oops,” in a coy manner – and watch him unravel.
Remember: You should use this tool efficiently and sparsely for best results.
13. Reach out less than he does.
We know how much you like him and how much you want to talk to him – but you have to be brave about it, and smart too.
Don’t give in and text him first just because you’re missing him too much. These aren’t normal circumstances, and he isn’t just a guy. He doesn’t initiate conversations – because he knows you’ll do it first when you miss him.
Thus, show him how little you care by being aloof (even if you’re dying inside). Make Him Miss You and Want You!
14. Be confident.
The best advice we can give to a girl who has been hurt by a guy who likes to play games is this: live your life as if he doesn’t exist – since he lives his life like you don’t.
Go on and pursue your career and academics. Make beautiful memories with your friends and family. Forget about him – and take charge of your life without any fear. He’ll see this as an expression of freedom and liveliness, and it’ll instantly make you more attractive to men.
15. Have a life of your own.
If you want high-quality men pining after you, step outside of your normal routine. Make sure you’re creating a life you’ll enjoy. Men are aware that just a few women are capable of achieving this – and they’ll pursue these exceptional women.
Go on vacations without checking in with him. Go out, and meet new men who’ll treat you better than he can. See what else is out there. He’ll see this as a warning sign that he’s losing you – and will come crawling back.
16. Stick with your boundaries.
Sometimes, we all make the mistake of letting people cross our personal boundaries because we think it’s what we’re supposed to do, or it’s what politeness dictates. But believe us, there isn’t anything sexier or more irresistible than a woman who reclaims her personal space.
If you go out on a date and he insists on kissing afterward, don’t do it if you’re uncomfortable. Don’t hold his hand if you’re not ready for it, and certainly don’t sleep with him just because you think it’s “time.”
17. Don’t be completely his.
Never give the guy any “boyfriend advantages” if he’s not your boyfriend.
You’ll be discounting the beauty and importance that men place on relationships if you believe that sex is the best thing you can give a guy. Men appreciate the emotional support that a relationship provides. They like the peace of mind that comes with knowing you are completely theirs.
18. Make him compete with other men.
The truth is, you shouldn’t make the guy feel like he’s the only one. Show him that a bunch of guys pursue you. Post an Instagram photo of you with other guys (even if they’re your buddies).
The idea is to show the guy that he isn’t the only one interested in you, and that you’re in high demand.
19. Avoid texting him too much.
Even if you’re having a magical time with him, there’s the off-chance that he isn’t as smitten with you as you are with him. If you want this guy to like you just a little bit more, you should avoid texting him all the time.
Don’t send him that meme he’ll enjoy, and don’t ask him how his day went. Let him miss you and ask you what’s up or even worry where you are. Let him bear the weight of the emotional labor for once, believe that you’re worth the effort, and no matter what you do, don’t double-text.
20. Keep it short and sweet.
There’ll come a time when he contacts you. Ensure you keep everything brief and pleasant when you talk to him in person, over the phone, or via text. Resist the urge to write him a long text in which you let your heart out.
Even if you think you’re having a good time, keep conversation to a minimum. You want him to desire more of you in the future. When you limit the amount of time you spend with him, he’ll develop a strong desire for you.
He’ll be left with no choice but to pursue you. You’re not only making him want you more, but you’re also keeping it easy for him to do exactly what you want him to.
The Bottom Line
By playing hard to get, you’re letting him experience how a relationship becomes more exciting as it matures. You’re making sure that his appeal towards you isn’t simply sexual in nature, and that there’s something truly electrifying between you too.
Don’t play the chasing game blindly by thinking that the strategy works just because someone said so. Understand why you need to play the game, if at all, and figure out how much you want to play.
Don’t lose sight of the important people in your life because you’re enjoying the thrill of being chased too much.