Breakups are painful – however, they aren’t necessarily irreversible. In fact, several happily married couples broke up before tying the knot. Many couples break up, but end up getting back together. Some break up and are never seen together again
If you’ve recently broken up with your significant other, you probably feel disappointed, angry, and hopeless – and you’re probably wondering if there’s a chance he’ll return.
Read on to learn about the signs that he will come back when he’s ready for a relationship.
Is He Still Not Over You?
Men and women deal with breakups in different ways.
A woman will encourage herself to experience all of her painful feelings, spend time contemplating what went wrong, and cherish the memories when getting over a breakup. This actually helps women gain closure over their breakup.
On the other hand, men are more likely to bury their emotions and “move on”. As a result, they will put off dealing with the emotional toll of the breakup – and won’t necessarily realize that he hasn’t moved on. b
If your gut is telling you that your relationship isn’t over and there is a lot of love left between you two, maybe that is exactly what he’s feeling too. If you’re trying to get over him and get your life back in order, you need to be 100% sure that he’s moved on.
Here are some signs that he wants to get back together with you:
1. He says he’s always been in love with you.
You have the trump card if your ex tells you he really loves you after you split up.
No matter the reason for the breakup, there’s a fair chance he’ll return at some point if he told you he loves you.
Believe it or not, men aren’t just thoughts and sex; they also have intense emotions. If he loves you, he probably won’t shut the door and forget about you.
2. He reaches out after the breakup.
Reaching out is a clear sign that he’s not over you yet. But beware: this guy broke up with you and maybe even left you in pieces. Don’t let him back in your life that easily.
He should have to work hard to win your confidence and love again. If he really loves you and is worthy of your attention, he will put in the effort to get you back.
Take your time and keep yourself distant until you’re ready to let him back into your life.
3. He’s curious about your love life.
If he’s been telling his buddies about your love life, stalking your social media, or calling you to inquire about your romantic life, you’re definitely on his mind – and he’s probably itching to reunite with you.
4. He asks you too many questions.
If he’s curious about your plans for the future and thoughts on current affairs, and is interested in hearing about what you’ve been up to, he’s trying to re-establish the same degree of confidence and transparency that you had when you were together – which is a positive indication that he wants to get back together.
5. He confesses that he misses you.
This one is self-evident: when he says he misses you, and leaves himself vulnerable to getting hurt again, he’s expressing his feelings, opening up to you, and admitting that the time apart has been difficult for him.
You’re free to decide whether you want to get back together, but take it slowly before responding with, “I miss you, too.” Are you sure you want him back at this point?
Take time to consider your option before you send a text or make a phone call.
6. He tries to hang out.
Your ex’s repeated attempts to reach you may be caused by his urge to have more conversations about what went wrong in your relationship . He might even ask to meet up, and say “it’s not a date and has nothing to do with our relationship”.
If your ex shows an interest in catching up with you, it’s a clear hint that they’ll return back to you. If you also want to get back together with him, you should accept his offer to hang out.
But, if you feel like he mistreated you and want him to realize how good he had it, wait it out. Only accept the offer to hang out if you actually believe you can repair whatever was broken in the relationship.
7. He’s dating your exact opposite.
Exes often attempt to compensate for a breakup’s pain by going after someone who is nothing like their ex.
If your ex-boyfriend’s new girl looks nothing like you, it probably means that he’s trying to get over you with the new girl.
If he’s making a spectacle about being “over you” or boasting about his new girlfriends, these are the actions of someone trying to fill a hole by engaging in pointless fun and games.
8. He’s finding it difficult to break old habits.
If he’s still using old words of endearment like “babe,” “hun,” and so on, it’s usually a sign he’s trying to reclaim your affection.
If he’s calling you by your gentle and loving nicknames, and you’re getting the romantic vibes back, he’s probably feeling it too.
9. He’s your biggest online fan.
If your ex appears on all of your online dating profiles, it’s a safe bet he’ll return one day.
Is he bombarding you with “likes” and noticeably following every detail of your life on social media? This is not the behavior of a man who has moved on, but rather it’s the behavior of a man who wants to be a part of your life.
10. He asks your friends about you.
If he’s asking your buddies for updates on how you’re doing and what’s new with you, it’s a sure sign you’re always on his mind.
He’s probably missing you, feels cut off, and clearly wishes to come back to you.
11. You had an on and off relationship – and have broken up before.
If your relationship has a history of breakups, there’s a good chance you’ll be back together in no time.
12. You broke up in the heat of the moment.
Many times people split up because of a heated disagreement or because they’re really angry. If you broke up after a fight, there’s a fair chance they’ll reconsider their words once they’ve calmed down and have started acting logically.
13. He talks about you or old memories together on social media.
If you scroll through his social media and find him sharing a lot about you or memories with you, it might mean he’s on his way back to you.
This desire may be present in jokes or ambiguous references to you, especially sly references to the first time he met you and what you talked about.
If he is talking about a song you both like or a line of poetry he used to quote to you, you’ll pick up on what he’s doing. This man is desperate to see you again.
14. He still hangs out with your family.
If this is the case, you can assume he’s not over you and wants to connect with you again. He seems to want to be as interested in your life as possible, and no matter what has happened, he isn’t over you and wants you back.
17. It’s not a breakup – just a break.
Ross Geller may have been onto something.
If you’re in this situation, you’ll almost certainly get back together, or at least try to. Maybe this breakup is what you both need to realize how important you are to each other.
However, for this to be considered a valid reason, there must be an acceptable explanation for why you just decided to call it quits instead of actually breaking up.
18. What you experienced was true love – and is meant to be.
Life has its ups and downs, and they can often get in the way of what you and your partner really want. If this guy is your soul mate, true love will eventually get you back together.
19. He hasn’t been doing well since the breakup.
Things like being unable to stay employed, putting on weight, forming new addictions, and even being unable to keep a girlfriend mean that your ex is attempting to fill the gap left in their heart when you two broke up, which is one of the most telling signs that your ex will return to you.
The Reality of Whether or Not He’ll Come Back
It isn’t easy to find true love and intimacy.
Whether or not he wants to get back together will all depend on how serious your relationship was and how strong your feelings are now. Is there still hope for the future with this man you love, or was it really over when it was over? Only time will tell.