Open any women’s magazine and you’ll find that every other page seems to have advice on how to get a guy, how to be better at dating, how to improve your flirting technique, or what it means when he doesn’t text you back within an hour.
Women grow up being told that getting a guy is important and getting married is the biggest prize – almost to an extent that being single can feel scary, lonely and daunting.
You should never date anyone just because that’s what society or family expect of you, but there are definite perks to having a boyfriend.
Here are 13 reasons why having a boyfriend is better than being single – read on to learn all the benefits and perks of being with someone versus flying solo.
1. You’ve got someone you can rely on.
Having a boyfriend by your side is actually lovely, because you have someone you can rely on who isn’t family or a friend. When life gets busy, you hope that you can still rely on a family member or a close friend for help, but in reality, it isn’t always that easy.
People have their own lives and partners to take care of, and you can’t always rely that they’ll be able to hang out – let alone be there for you in an emergency.
Having a boyfriend means you never have to worry about being left alone, not having help with an important issue, or missing important advice on a life decision.
Your boyfriend also relies on you for many things, which makes you feel needed and appreciated. You know that your presence is really important for another human being.
You both make each other happy, and you are each other’s reason for happiness. It’s the greatest feeling in the world.
2. You’ve got a cuddle buddy.
Sometimes we just need a good long cuddle, a good cry, or a good vent after a hard day of work. When you’re single, it may feel like you don’t know who to turn to.
You don’t want to rant to your friends about your horrible job or manager all the time. You don’t want to be a burden on someone who might have their own problems going on or not much time for you.
You can’t always get a cuddle from your mum if you don’t live together anymore. So, it can get pretty lonely.
Having a boyfriend fixes that – you’ve got someone who’s there for you in your lowest moments, when all you need is to feel loved, embraced and protected.
3. You can travel together.
While you may have travelled a lot with your friends, it gets increasingly hard to organize things just for your gang after they settle down or find boyfriends of their own. Having a boyfriend helps you plan exciting adventures, just for the two of you.
Travelling with friends is great – but after 48 hours together, you probably all get a little sick of one another, or someone starts to miss their boyfriend and calls them every 20 minutes.
It’s so easy having a travel buddy who’s on the same page with you, knows you and doesn’t mind being stuck with you for days in a row.
4. You can avoid awkward situations.
If you’ve been invited to an event that you really don’t want to go to, or need to deal with some issue, having a “partner in crime” really comes in handy. Just having that one person who can step in and help you feel a lot more relaxed in any environment or situation is a gamechanger.
One of these situations is attending weddings, where the two of you can have so much fun instead of you being stuck on the singles table and having to make small talk with the bride’s third cousin’s best friend.
The best thing is that if you’re at a party together and aren’t having any fun, you don’t even need to say much to him for him to notice that it’s time to go. You’ve got that non-verbal communication and understanding that can be really helpful in awkward situations.
5. You can avoid getting hit on by other men.
It can be really fun being single, but not when you’re constantly hit on everywhere you go. You order a drink at a bar, and there’s always a man chatting you up. You go to an event as the only single woman, and you feel that your friends are trying to set you up with the only single guy there.
It can get pretty exhausting, especially if you get hit on by men you are not remotely interested in.
Being in a relationship, even if you’re hanging out without your boyfriend, is nice and easy – because you can always politely tell someone that you are not available and be left alone. Of course, some men see this as a challenge and continue to flirt, so it’s not always an easy way out.
6. You’ve got someone to look after you when you’re ill.
We all know how horrible it is to be ill, especially when you’re alone. Even making a cup of tea can be a complete chore.
Having a boyfriend means you don’t have to struggle with a sickness on your own, and you have someone who cares for you deeply and wants to help you recover quickly – so you won’t be stuck feeling sorry for yourself for too long.
7. It’s financially smart.
One of the biggest benefits of being in a relationship is splitting daily costs. It’s just financially reasonable not to fly solo (especially for too long).
You can take turns for paying for date nights, lend each other money if you need to, and split rent and grocery costs.
It’s also a great way to avoid living in a shared household with a bunch of strangers if you can’t afford to live on your own.
8. You have an extra best friend.
A boyfriend is really also your best friend. He’s someone who’s got your back, no matter what. You can tell him your darkest secrets and he still loves you
The fact that he’s a guy means that he can bring a fresh perspective to many issues which you may have previously only discussed with girlfriends.
It can be so easy to share an issue with your boyfriend and receive good sound advice, without a lot of emotion attached to it.
9. You can be your silliest self.
A boyfriend is someone you can be your true self with, and he loves you all the more for it. In fact, the closer you get to a romantic partner, the more authentic you’ll probably be with him.
You don’t have to try and hide your true self or be on your best behavior like you might be at work or school. You can just be you – and it’s so refreshing. You have someone you can share jokes with and be mischievous with without feeling weird or judged.
10. You can be your “ugly” self.
At the beginning of dating someone new or flirting with a guy for the first time, us women always want to put on a good show – we want the perfect outfit, nails, hair, lipstick, and not a zit in sight.
Realistically, this isn’t how we wake up! And it isn’t practical to maintain it 24/7 every single day. Sooner or later, you need to show your make-up free face and bad, third-day hair to the man you love and be okay with it.
It feels more than natural to shed all masks and just be yourself around him. This doesn’t mean you have to let yourself go entirely, but your ugliest sweater isn’t going to scare him off – and your make-up free face is actually still attractive. Just ask him, he’ll tell you the same!
Being with someone for a while means that they accept and love you for who you are, and you don’t need to put in crazy amounts of effort to try and impress him. He’s already impressed and likes you for you.
11. Dating is a lot different
When you’re single, dating means getting ready for hours, choosing the right place, and making sure you’re on time. When you’re in a relationship, dating might not be as thrilling – but it’s a lot easier.
You know where you stand with that person, and you don’t have to make some grandiose plans in order to impress them. Date nights are still fun, but you can also have a date night at home, with Netflix and pizza, and it’s still great.
Not every date means dressing up or putting heels on. Then the dates that are a bit more special – when both of you make a bit more effort – are really appreciated and memorable.
12. You have help when you need it.
Blocked toilet? No problem! Need a lightbulb replaced? No need to worry – he knows exactly which type to get. You’re hungry but too tired to cook? No worries – he’s happy to cook for you.
One of the biggest benefits of having a boyfriend is having a bit of a “handyman” at your disposal. No, really, it can transform your life entirely! You quickly realize that you don’t have to do everything yourself, and that it’s okay to ask to be taken care of once in a while.
He can put a shelf up for you or drive you to the airport. He can organize your birthday or do you a massive favor. Many times, if you’re lucky, you wouldn’t even need to ask – he’d gladly offer his services.
13. You learn what true love actually is.
Yes, we can love our friends, family members and pets dearly – but it isn’t until you get a boyfriend that you learn what true love actually is all about.
It’s about trust, respect, kindness, and compromise. It’s letting the other person win an argument, just because you love them too much to fight.
It’s about forgiving their mistakes and not nagging them about the past. It’s about embracing them for who they are and not trying to change or control them. It means not being clingy or jealous, and trusting that they’re with you for a reason.
The Bottom Line
The above 13 reasons why having a boyfriend is better than being single are just more proof that you need to get yourself out there, give men a chance, and flirt a little! You never know who you might meet.
Here are some guides and steps you can take to find yourself an amazing partner:
- Practice self-care by checking out Top 27 Self-Care Ideas for When You Need to Recharge
- Become more attractive to men
- Learn the 12 Things Nobody Tells You About Men and the 11 Things Men Hate About Women
- Find out how to Get a Man to Chase You – and how to do it through text!
- When you find a man, take a look at the Top 20 First Date Ideas: How to Have a Successful First Date
- Be More Mysterious in Your Relationship and keep him coming back for more!