There are many reasons why a relationship can break down, and it’s not always what we expect.
If you want your ex back in your life, keep reading to find out how to make him miss you – want you back in his life!
1. Be honest with yourself.
You first need to think about your own feelings and work out what you truly want. Did they hurt you? Cheat on you? Did they make a habit of flirting with other people?
You’ll need to be extra sensitive during the first weeks of your breakup. By stepping back and giving them space, this will allow your ex-partner time to miss you as well. It’s important not just for them, but also for yourself that you are honest about why this relationship ended in the first place.
2. Stop texting him.
You may want to pull back by ceasing to text your ex -partner. Texting is a quick and easy way of getting in contact, but it’s not the best if you want to make him miss you because texts don’t show much emotion or personality.
If he texts you, don’t always respond right away. This will help keep your ex-partner guessing, while also giving yourself some space as well!
3. Make sure things end peacefully.
It might seem tempting to become invisible for a little bit during the break up (and hey, we get it!) but no matter what he did wrong, being nice about things will go a long way in making sure he misses you later.
4. Ask for help with something.
Men are driven by the need to help women.
If you need help with something, such as leaking pipes, then ask for his help. This will trigger something in him known as the “hero instinct”, which is something that most men possess.
Basically, your ex has a biological need to help others and feel needed by women. It makes him feel important and proud of the man he is.
Men have a primal instinct to protect the woman they’re close to. Even though you don’t need a hero, men still love to feel like one.
The key is to just get him in your home or to see him in person. From here, you can use the other tips in this article to win him over.
5. Play hard to get.
It’s a known fact that playing hard to get can make you more desirable as a potential date or partner. Now’s the time to work on those cold shoulder vibes.
Just remember, keep yourself busy – but not completely unattainable. You don’t want him thinking he has no chance of getting you back. Basically, it’s a balancing act.
If he’s the type of guy who wants to talk on the phone every night before bed or text you endlessly throughout the day, taking a break from communication will make him wonder what happened.
Playing hard to get can be taken too far, so don’t start blocking his number and pretending like you’re in high school again.
6. Always be the first one to hang up.
You want to play hard to get, so always hang up first. You must always end a text conversation first to maintain the sense that you are not just sitting around waiting on your phone for him to contact you.
This also includes not texting back straight away. While you may feel like jumping at the chance to return their text messages, you need to make him wait for your response if you want him to miss you.
7. Don’t be rude.
When trying to get back with an ex, it’s important not to be rude. Be kind and courteous – even if you’re angry or frustrated! It’ll make things a little easier for both of you. If you must argue, do so respectfully.
Maintain your dignity at all times – especially online! Humility is the best revenge in this situation. Don’t let him see any cracks in your armor that he can exploit later on down the line.
8. Don’t tell him you miss him.
It’s natural to miss the person you once loved (Here’s Why You Miss Your Boyfriend So Much – And Whether It’s Healthy), and for a while after your break up it might feel like that feeling will never go away. But don’t tell him this!
He knows how much he means to you – why would he want to come back if all you’re going to do is keep reminding him of what’s missing in his life?
Showing vulnerability can be refreshing- but don’t be too vulnerable! Act strong and show confidence at least some of the time. Don’t make yourself seem desperate or needy by providing constant reassurance.
9. Use social media as your weapon.
If you want to get your ex back, social media is the perfect way for you to show him what he’s missing! It gives a glimpse into the life of what they could have.
Even though it may seem like a waste of time, posting pictures and statuses on social media will show them that you’re doing ok, and will show him what he lost out on.
10. Have other plans.
Don’t always be available for him. If you are, he’s going to get the idea that he can just hang out with you whenever he doesn’t have something better to do. Do you really want to be someone’s backup plan?
If a date or event comes up, make sure you go and enjoy yourself. Make it your rule to say yes to nearly every invite.
Be an independent woman who’s confident in what she wants from life. You don’t have time to waste on someone who’s already left your side, so don’t let them know they’re still wanted.
Being unavailable will make you more desirable to your ex. It’ll show the type of woman you are, along with making him feel like he’s made a huge mistake.
11. Dress your best.
He’ll always find you attractive, so dress your best to get him hot under the collar. You can bet that he won’t be able to get the image out of his head for weeks! In fact, he’ll feel like an idiot for ever ending things with you.
It may be hard if you’re feeling low after what’s happened, but try your hardest to make an effort. You see, this isn’t just about him: making an effort with your appearance will make you feel better yourself. So get glam!
12. Don’t give up on him.
If you’re not over your ex, try to put yourself in their shoes. You’ll see that they’re probably hurting too – and just need some time.
Give them time before expecting them to make any decisions about the two of you. It’s always better for everyone if you can patch things up and be short-term friends, rather than completely disappearing from their life when there’s still hope.
13. Make him jealous.
If you’re not sure if he misses you, make him miss you by going out on a date with someone else. It’s actually one of the Top 14 Tips to Make Him Chase You Again!
When he sees that there are other people in your life, he’ll start to think about what it would be like if things had never gone wrong between the two of you. He’ll realize how much better off you could be together.
14. “Accidentally” leave your possessions around.
Whether it’s the zoo ticket from your first date or your favorite earrings, leaving some of your stuff in his house is a great way to keep you on his mind.
The first few weeks after you break up with someone are tough – and that goes for both parties. To recapture the magic of your previous times together, these items will trigger memories of the happy days together.
15. Make him see that you’re the one.
You know what his ideal woman is like, so be like that! You want him to realize that you were “the one” all along, and that he’s been carrying a torch for you all this time.
He’ll start to wonder what could’ve happened if things had gone differently, which will make him want to try again.
He may have thought that there was something wrong with just you and not both of you together – so set him straight by proving otherwise!
Just be yourself. Show him what made him fall for you in the first place – and if neither one of those feelings come back, then maybe it really is time to move on.
16. Make it obvious how much he means to you.
He should know by now that you’re not just another girl in his life who’s going to come and go. You need him as much as your next breathe of air!
Make sure he knows you’re there for him during any of life’s difficulties. That’ll show him that even though there were problems between the two of you, there’s still a lot of affection for him.
17. Be yourself.
If you’re in love with him and he’s the one for you, then there’s really nothing to worry about. He’ll be thinking of ways to get back together long before you know it!
It might take time, but if this is what both people want, then there should be a happy ending to this story. Remember, he was with you because of who you are a as a person.
People also frequently make the mistake of changing who they are to win their ex back, but this is a recipe for disaster. There’s nothing wrong with improving yourself – but changing your core personality won’t result in a happy relationship in the long-term.
18. Have a signature.
One of the best ways to make him miss you and want you back is by having a signature that reminds him of your personality. This can be a certain scent, a favorite song, or a piece of food.
Guess what’ll happen every time he comes across your signature? He’ll remember you! You can use small personal items that create subtle reminders of who you are. Think hair bands, earrings, jumpers, etc.
So you got him back… Now what?
So, the tips in this article worked and now the two of you are back together – nice!
How should you behave? Are things different now?
It’s important to take things slow when you first get back with an ex, so don’t be clingy or expect the two of you to just pick up where you left off.
Moving too quickly or pressuring him into doing something he’s not ready for yet might make him feel uncomfortable. Instead, take things slow and give yourselves time to adjust.
If this is a long-term relationship then it’s important that both of you are emotionally ready.
The Bottom Line
Hopefully, these tips helped clear up some of those pesky questions in your head concerning whether or not he’ll come back if ever given the chance! Follow these guidelines closely and he’ll be begging at your door before you know it.
Just remember, there are plenty of fish in the sea! You deserve someone better than Mr. Unavailable – someone who won’t string you along and leave once they feel like they’ve had enough fun.
Whether things go well or not, it’s important to know that you don’t need anyone else to make you happy. We’re all in charge of our own emotions, and you’ll be happy in time.