Dating can be full of many questions, and many men and women have a difficult time figuring each other out.
Sometimes you’re not sure how to behave around a guy or what a guy might or might not prefer.
Since every guy is different, it’s hard to determine what guys prefer, but it’s safe to say that most guys enjoy having a girl make the first move.
Of course, there are a few old-fashioned guys who feel that it should be the man, but it’s safe to say that most guys like it or even prefer it if a woman makes the first move.
One way that a girl can make the first move is to text a guy first. But do guys like it when you text them first?
Most guys do like to be texted first. It makes them feel special and lets them know that you’re interested.
It also shows that you’re confident and that you go after what you want, and this is attractive to many guys.
As long as you’re not sending excessive text messages throughout the day and failing to allow him to respond before sending additional text messages, you shouldn’t have any problems.
Texting is often the main form of communication between people when they’re newly dating or trying to get to know each other, so if you have a guy that you’re interested in and you want him to know that you like him, just text him.
You don’t have to tell him that you like him in the text messages, but simply taking the initiative and texting him first will tell him a lot.
In fact, here are seven reasons why you should text your love interest first.
1: He doesn’t have to make the first move
Not all guys are confident daters, and the guy that you’re interested in may be extremely shy.
Even if he likes you, he may be too afraid to make the first move, so if you text him first, then it will make things easier for him.
In fact, in some cases, if you don’t text first, you may never have the opportunity to go out with him. He may never gather enough courage to ask you out and so you may miss out on the chance.
2: Not every guy is good at noticing hints
You may have been trying to hint to your crush that you’re interested in him, but he may have failed to notice.
Guys can be real dunces sometimes, so if you text a guy first, he should know loud and clear that you’re interested in him as more than friends, especially if you ask him out or send him certain emojis.
3: It’s not 1923
Perhaps in the early to mid-1900s, a woman would never have considered making the first move, but things are different now.
More and more women are taking charge in relationships and making the first move with guys.
This not only shows that women are courageous, but also that they’re able to go after what they want.
Again, not every guy has the confidence to ask a woman out first, currently or in the 1900s, and if a woman fails to text first, then she might miss out.
4: He may never have known that you’re interested
It’s not that your love interest doesn’t find you attractive or interesting, but if you don’t text him first, he may never have considered dating you.
Again, guys can be total dunces sometimes, and they may simply have failed to notice you or think of you in a romantic manner.
But by texting him first and letting him know that you’re interested, his feelings can be awakened when he realizes that you’re interested and what a great catch you are.
There have been a lot of missed connections because of the failure to communicate feelings in possible relationships.
5: You will improve his self-esteem
Having a girl initiate contact via text message and showing that she’s interested in a guy can be a major self-esteem booster.
Not only will he feel good and special that you thought enough to text him first, but he will likely be flattered that you’re interested in him.
Guys often feel a great deal of pressure to make the first move and text a girl first, so it can be a nice change and a nice surprise to have a girl send the first text.
6: It’s an icebreaker
Your crush could really be into you and could be trying to figure out how to let you know how he feels.
By having you text him first, not only does it show that you’re interested in him too, but it also breaks the ice so you two can avoid the awkwardness that often occurs in new relationships.
In the past, couples were forced to get to know each other either by talking in person or on the phone. Now, with the option to text, it makes things easier for both people involved.
You can text until you’re comfortable enough to talk on the phone or go on a date, which should be a lot more comfortable now that you’ve gotten to know each other a bit.
7: It’s a great way to get to know each other
You can learn a lot about a person through text messages. Many people feel no pressure when they’re texting since they can “hide” in a way that can help them to feel more comfortable opening up.
People can text for hours some things that they might never tell another person during a telephone or in-person conversation.
Through texting, you can also send pictures, links, an emoji or two, and more, which can help the two of you express yourselves even better.
It’s important to be careful when texting, however, because sometimes text messages can be misconstrued.
However, as long as you’re not obsessive when it comes to texting a guy first, it can be a very positive move on your part.
While there may be a few guys who find having a woman text them first to be a little forward, most guys will feel flattered and find it attractive.
So, if you want to text your crush first, then go ahead.
Just make sure you send one text and wait for him to respond, and if he fails to respond, don’t take things personally.
Next time you see him in person, you can mention that you texted him, or you can try texting again on another day.
There could be many reasons why a guy may not respond to a text message, from problems with his phone to him being busy and anything in between.
How to text a guy if you decide to text him first
If you decide to initiate a text conversation with a guy you are interested in, there are certain rules you should follow.
In addition to refraining from sending multiple messages before he’s had the chance to respond, make sure you keep your first text message brief.
You should refrain from sending lengthy text messages until he’s responded and you’re sure he’s interested in getting to know you.
As long as you keep the text short, sweet, and simple, you should be just fine.