Some of the words people use to describe a Virgo man include practical, critical, attentive, workaholic, and a true perfectionist – but this is just the tip of the iceberg. There’s so much more you need to learn about the Virgo man to help you decide if you want to try and win his heart.
But careful – this one is a special one! This star signs often gets a bad reputation, or is the topic of star sign jokes, but it’s okay – when you love one, you’ll accept him with all his flaws too.
Read on for the 12 most important things you should know about dating a Virgo man.
1. He’s really organized.
Yes, he maybe stereotyped as the perfectionist on the zodiac, or even a little OCD, but it’s only because he’s quite critical of himself (and others). The Virgo man loves to keep things neat and tidy; he loves organizing things and putting them in order. He’ll notice when something isn’t right, and will try to correct it.
He wants to look good and put his best foot forward wherever he goes. It’s a matter of principle. He wants to own nice things, and makes a fuss about it.
He’s got extreme attention to detail, so he’ll notice what you’re wearing on the first date and may even compliment you for it. Don’t expect him to be too upfront – you may have to put in a lot of effort to even get him to go on a date with you.
If he’s coming over to your place, make sure everything is clean and tidy, or he won’t be impressed. He’ll love your clean home and feel comfortable with you instantly. He wants to feel that you have the same vibes as he does, and you care about the same things.
If you’re naturally messy, this partnership might not work out at all. There’s only so long you can conceal your messy side from the Virgo man; he’ll see right through it.
2. You should make the first move.
A Virgo man isn’t great with hints and might not take the first step, ever. He’s straightforward and practical, so if you want to get to know him you might just have to ask him out. You need to stay real and be direct with him, as he’s highly grounded (he’s an Earth sign, after all).
The key to his heart is through true friendship. Get to know him first. Don’t rush into things. This way you’ll know how compatible you are and how successful you can be together.
If you get too clingy too early on, you’ll probably scare him off and he will retreat. That’s not his idea of a blooming romance.
3. He’s complicated.
The Virgo man is a special one, which makes him attractive to so many people. Most of it lies in his deep complexity – he can appear ambiguous, thoughtful, complicated, and mysterious. One never knows where they stand with him, as there seems to always be another layer to uncover.
You can have a really satisfying relationship with a Virgo man, as long as you’ve got the patience and aren’t expecting too much of him, too early on. Let him take his time to open up to you.
4. He needs his space.
The Virgo man can change his mind and moods quickly, and as a result may feel uncomfortable being in the same place for a long time. He’ll need a change and an escape, and you just have to deal with it.
He can get anxious, but it won’t have much to do with you. In fact, if he’s ignoring you, it’s often a sign he’s falling for you and doesn’t know how to deal with his emotions. Let him come to you, instead of pestering him when he isn’t ready.
He’s perfectly fine being on his own, so don’t expect him to suddenly want to see you every minute of every day. That’s just not the way he is.
5. He’s a creature of habit.
The Virgo man loves his life and clings strongly to his habits and the things he likes. If you think you can sweep in and change all that, think again! He wants a partner who will align with him, not try to change his patterns – as in his eyes, they are perfect.
He’s sincere, and won’t date someone if things aren’t serious; he likes perfection too much to risk a failed relationship or a broken heart.
6. He can get jealous.
His perfectionism and practicality tend to get the best of him – so much so that he can get pretty jealous. The best way to avoid this is to tell everyone he’s yours, and show it! You’re lucky because he loves being in a long-term relationship. Show him you’re committed to him and it will give him the peace of mind he needs.
When it comes to his high standards, he wants his partner to be on the same level – so he may come across as controlling and a bit “too much” at times. Accept that he isn’t trying to change you – he just wants to make things perfect for you too. It’s the way he is!
7. He’s domestic at heart.
The Virgo man loves the comfort of his home, so you may struggle to take him out of it. In a long-term relationship, this can quickly become an issue, as you’d probably want some social contact, so you’ll need to remind him why it’s good for him too. Staying in is okay, but not every day.
Other than that, if you put in some effort into decorating your shared home in a way that will make him feel cozy, he’ll love you forever. This means cozy quiet spaces for reading, lots of soft furnishings, and good light.
8. He can be a workaholic.
The Virgo man loves his career, but also loves to complain about work a lot – so you need to accept that’s the way he is. He can be a walking contradiction, and a little hard to decipher at times. One day he loves going to work and can’t be more excited about it, and the next he complains about his boss.
Most times he just needs to vent, and isn’t looking for actual solutions. Accept that he can be a bit of a workaholic, and there’s nothing you can do to change that. Just need to remind him that he also needs rest.
The Virgo man loves talking about health, so if you want him to take it easy at work, just bring up stress levels and burnout as topics – it’ll make him stop in his tracks. You need to get on his level when talking to him, as emotional arguments won’t do much.
9. He’s a devoted lover.
The Virgo man’s perfectionism is reflected in everything he does, including what he’s like between the sheets. He is focused on really connecting with his partner, on an emotional level. Sex isn’t just about the physical with him.
Most people will say the Virgo man is an amazing lover, because he’s so attentive and really cares about the person he’s with.
10. He does a lot in the relationship.
The beauty of the Virgo man is that he does so much for his partner behind the scenes and doesn’t even need to talk about it. He’s got a vision, and his perfectionism makes him want to do everything right for her.
When in a relationship, it’s definitely his priority – but he might struggle to express it with words. He wants the best of the best for the person he loves, and he’s generous in his efforts to get it for her.
11. He’s always looking for more.
One of the hardest things about dating a Virgo man is keeping him satisfied and interested in you for a long time. You get the feeling that he’s always on the lookout for something more, and for someone more perfect, and the truth is – he usually is. It’s just the way he’s wired.
He could sometimes be someone who can’t tell how well he’s got it, which can be a shame. You may marry him and still feel like he remains a mystery to you, like he’s just about to leave you, or that you’ll never see him again.
12. He’s all about the details.
The Virgo man can be needlessly fussy and particular about anything and everything. Despite being ruled by Mercury which is the planet of communication, the Virgo man just can’t get his communication right.
He means well, but can come across as blunt and even rude, especially when he wants things a certain way. He just can’t give it a rest! On bad days, he can be a real pain to deal with, and you might be better off going for a long walk alone or sitting in a different room, and just giving him (and yourself) some space.
Hix fixation on details is, of course, really handy when it comes to noticing things about you that no one else seems to pay much attention to. He’ll surprise you with a gift – maybe even something you’ve mentioned casually, months ago. The downside is, he’ll also remember every fight you’ve ever had – in full detail.
He’s terrified of being anything less than perfect, and he’s got really high standards for himself, his job, those he surrounds himself with. He can struggle to make a decision about a meal in a restaurant, because he wants to know which one is the best dish on the menu.
The Bottom Line: A Virgo Man in a Nutshell
Born between August 23 and September 22, Virgos can be guarded and reserved – especially when you’re first trying to get to know them. You’ll keep wondering:
- What is he thinking?
- Does he like me?
- Is he seeing someone else?
The Virgo man is a total mystery at first, but once you get him to open up, you’re met with a hilarious sense of humor and a man who loves perfection. In fact, he is kind of perfect – almost too perfect – so be careful how you act around him!
As a sign ruled by the planet Mercury he’s intelligent and ambitious, but not as chatty and flexible as the Gemini. He’s a shy, sensitive guy, who’s looking for someone special – and won’t rest until he finds her.
He’s extremely quiet and private about his relationships and protects his home as a true fortress. He isn’t comfortable sharing too much about his emotions or plans, and would rather show how he feels with actions, gifts and gestures – which he’s really good at, because of his extreme attention to detail.
Although he ranks as #10 on our list of zodiac signs that make the best boyfriends ranked from best to worst, at the end of the day, the Virgo man can occasionally be a real treat to date – and if you can accept his peculiarities, perfectionism, and occasional emotional detachment, then you’ll become his perfect partner.
If you’d like to find out more about a different Zodiac or other star sign compatibilities, check out our complete guide to Horoscopes – and learn how they impact relationships.