Sometimes what a woman really wants is to be with herself, and to truly treat herself. No men, no dates, no flowers, no fuss – just pure and simple uninterrupted “me-time” – with no regrets and no questions asked.
The truth is, dates with yourself aren’t just for single women. Women in relationships need them just as much, if not more! It’s essential to spend time apart from your partner to truly get to know yourself, be comfortable on one’s own, and not feel like you always need someone by your side.
It’s quite empowering to take yourself on a date. You soon come to realize that the most important person in your life is really you – and as such, you need to take care of that person’s wellbeing and really look after number one.
Make a commitment to take yourself on a date as soon as you can and really treat yourself. Empower yourself and be proud to be able to reap the benefits of taking yourself on a date! Here are 14 of the best date ideas to start off with.
1. Pampering Session
One can never have too much pampering; that’s just a fact. It’s the single easiest thing to do to make yourself feel better and healthier. It does require some time and money, but if you plan it well, you can enjoy it fairly regularly – and not feel guilty that you’re splurging.
At the end of the day, you should splurge on yourself – because the benefits are endless!
Start with a day at the spa, including a massage and treatments. It might feel weird to be at the spa by yourself, but after the initial awkwardness, you’ll appreciate the anonymity and tranquillity of it.
Instead of spending a day with a friend who won’t stop talking, you’ve got the whole spa to yourself. Bring a book and immerse yourself in the moment.
Bonus points if you book an appointment on a weekday. You’ll notice the difference for sure! It’s likely to be a lot less busy and you might snap a good mid-week price deal.
Go for that relaxing facial or an hour-long hot stone massage. Treat yourself to something you’ve been meaning to try for ages. You deserve it!
2. Cinema Date
Going to the cinema alone isn’t for everyone, and that’s okay – but you’d never know how you personally feel about it until you actually give it a try. How scary can it be?
The first time you go to the cinema on your own you may feel quite self-conscious, so here are a few tips that can help you overcome those feelings and enjoy the experience more:
- Go during a less busy time to avoid crowds and couples (especially if you’re single).
- Go with a movie already in mind so you don’t spend ages choosing what to see.
- Get yourself some popcorn and a drink; after all, it is a date!
- Switch off your phone and don’t text during the movie. Try to really immerse yourself in the experience and just watch the movie.
- Tell a friend (or your boyfriend) about your experience after you’ve done it. Surely it won’t be that bad!
- On the way out of the movie, buy a cinema ticket for another solo date! This way you are committing to try this again and have something to look forward to.
- Was it a little weird? That’s okay! Embrace the weirdness. The novelty of it all is still really healthy to experience.
3. Cooking Class
If you’ve always wanted to learn how to cook, now’s the time to give it a try. Whether it’s sushi, chocolate, or a pastry-making class, you’ll enjoy it a lot for sure. Chances are you’ll meet like-minded women and men – and you can even make some new friends.
Cooking classes have become widely accessible, and you can even book one that’ll get you out of the house for a few weeks or even months in a row. You’ll know you’ve got something that’s just yours to enjoy – plus, you get a great skill out of it.
4. Sip and Draw Classes
Sip and draw classes have absolutely exploded in recent years. A simple Google search might return dozens of results, depending on where you live. Just book one, and don’t overthink it! Just bring yourself and a lot of enthusiasm.
You don’t have to be good at drawing to enjoy it either! There will be wine, lots of other women, and giggling – plus, at the end of the class, you get to take your newly drawn art with you home. What’s better than that?
You might even make a hobby out of it too; you never know!
5. Cook a Three-course Meal
It might sound a bit odd to cook excessive amounts of food for only yourself but hear us out. You’ll learn something new, and you’ll feel properly doted on – so why not give it a try? Look for recipes you haven’t done before and go wild!
Bonus points if you choose a bottle of wine that’ll pair perfectly with the meal. Set the table for yourself, light up some candles, put on a great movie, and make the most of it.
6. Explore a New Neighborhood
There’s nothing more fun than being a tourist in your own city. Pick a new neighborhood and immerse yourself in the local streets, shops, culture, and vibes. Buy yourself something from a local shop, try the coffee, sit on a bench, and take some photos.
As soon as you venture out of your usual environment, you’ll start to notice new things and think differently. Try it out – it works each time!
7. Shopping Spree
Shopping can certainly raise your dopamine levels, and you don’t need anyone in order to do it. In fact, chances are, you’ll feel properly pampered if you go on your own.
The next time you get your paycheck, head to the nearest shopping center and try on some clothes. Get some ice cream and get a little silly.
A shopping spree is a great date to take yourself on. Just be careful not to get too carried away with spending your hard-earned cash.
8. Pop-up Store Opening
Find your nearest pop-up store opening and book yourself to attend. Amongst the goodie bags, free champagne, and whatever else they sell, you’re likely to meet new people and get out of your comfort zone. It’s certainly something new to do!
9. Yoga Class
What’s a better solo date than destressing at a great yoga class? Get rid of any negative energy, stress, and anxiety by booking a yoga class with a great teacher. If you can afford a one-on-one class, that might even be better – and a lovely treat!
10. Creativity Day
Do you remember how much craftier you were in your younger years? You probably did magazine collage cutouts, wrote in a diary, painted, and invented new things all the time. Reconnect with your crafty self and inner child by scheduling a proper creativity day.
It could be as simple as making birthday cards for your friends from scratch, building a shelf, or repainting a wall. Whatever you choose, make a proper project out of it and make it your own.
Every time we create something, we connect with our deeper purpose. We own what we create and it gives us tremendous joy to see the finished product. It’s also a great way to destress and focus on the here and now.
Schedule a creativity day with yourself every month. Challenge yourself to put your skills to practice, watch some YouTube tutorials, and get crafty!
One of the most fun solo date ideas to take yourself in is to simply reconnect with the outdoors… through a lens! Grab your camera or smartphone and go on a little wander. Some of the photos you can take include:
- Nature elements
- Buildings and architecture
- The sky
- Quirky and odd items
This isn’t just for the ‘gram, but for you! Embrace your creative side and don’t rush through it. Give yourself a good few hours to explore and challenge yourself to get the best shot.
You’ve probably got a better eye for detail than you think. All you need is some patience and enthusiasm!
12. Go on a Hike
A solo hike can be a great way to destress and spend some time alone with your thoughts and dreams. Choose an area that isn’t too secluded so you feel safe, bring a little picnic, and make a great day out of it.
13. Book a Trip
A great self-date idea is to book a solo trip abroad and just go for it. It’s more than just a date! It’s a whole experience that’ll bring a lot of excitement.
If you’re a little more adventurous, you can go backpacking on your own – but if it sounds too challenging, then a great, all-inclusive hotel somewhere warm for a few days would do.
Solo traveling can do wonders for the mind; there are so many new emotions you’ll experience, and benefits you’ll gain, including:
- Uninterrupted reading time by the pool
- Eating out whenever and wherever you feel like it (without having to coordinate with a partner or friends)
- Harmless flirting with the pool bartender
- Sleeping in for as long as you want
- Feeling fully recharged at the end
14. Play Tourist in Your Own Town/City
When’s the last time you went to a museum in your own town? Or to the public library? Have you been on an organized sightseeing tour? It can be so refreshing to do it. It’ll open your eyes to the beauty of where you live and make you appreciate it more.
The Bottom Line
The above 14 best date ideas to take yourself on are proven ways to feel pampered, spoiled, happy, and relaxed – and all thanks to you! It pays to do what your body, mind, and soul need by investing in a good solo date. No regrets!