There’s nothing more confusing than trying to figure out whether the guy you’re interested in wants to ask you out again. There’s a good chance that he’s super-interested one moment, and then suddenly behaves in a totally different manor the next.
So, should you move on, or stay hopeful?
The good news is that there are a number of ways to find out if a man is still interested in dating you. In this article, we’ll jump into the 15 clear signs he wants to ask you out again. Oh, and what you should do about it.
Before we get started, you should always remember that you deserve a partner who wants you for who you are, not what you offer them during times of convenience. Remember your worth.
Now let’s get into it. Does he want to ask you out on another date?
1. He’s still contacting you
If he doesn’t want another date, then why would he still contact you?
However, I’m not talking about one or two blunt messages. I’m talking about conversations where he is actively asking questions, whether that’s asking how your day was or what you had for breakfast.
Making contact is one of the biggest signs that he is still interested and wants to ask you ask out again. At the very least, it shows that he doesn’t want to let go.
2. He’s awkward in your presence
It’s not universal, but a boy who likes you may show signs of awkwardness.
It’s important to notice the difference between a boy who doesn’t want to spend time with you, and a boy who enjoys your company, but is simply nervous. The two are often confused with one another.
Relationship expert, David Bennet, says that when someone who is not normally awkward, starts becoming awkward in your presence, then this can be a sign of interest.
He may even be super-chatty online, but act like a completely different person when you meet. This is VERY common.
Online, he is free to be his true self. He can send you memes, songs, and let his true thoughts flow freely.
So don’t worry if the guy wasn’t as keen when you met in person. He was likely just nervous, which affected his behaviour.
3. He’s drunk texting you
Have you woken up to dozens of notifications from him?
You may have even received a few missed calls at 4am.
Sending messages while drunk is a good sign that he wants you back again.
In fact, studies show that intoxicated individuals are speaking the truth when they are drunk. In this state, he will no longer be shy or awkward about his words. As such, you can really understand what he is thinking in regards to your relationship.
This can be a good sign if it happens once or twice. However, if he is still doing this after you have known each other for a while, then you may want to move on to avoid becoming a booty call.
4. Body language doesn’t lie
Sometimes people just give us a certain vibe.
On a conscious level, we aren’t sure why, but our brains are experienced when it comes to recognising certain cues.
These cues include mirroring behaviour, frequent touching, and eye contact.
Perhaps the biggest cue is an “open” body language, which shows that he wants to let you in. It’s an invitation to come closer, both physically and mentally.
5. Protective behaviour
Does he get protective over you?
What does he do if another guy gets close to you?
Guys who are still interested in going on more dates will sometimes show signs of protective behaviour. This can even extend to texting to make sure you’re home safe after a night out.
If he does this, then he probably wants to see you again. At the very least, it shows that he cares for you, and that’s never a bad thing.
Furthermore, feelings of jealously can cause some guys to take action. They don’t want to lose you to someone else… (and who can blame him).
So make sure to watch his reaction the next time you talk about another guy. You should get the answer that you’ve been looking for.
6. He is reminiscing
Is he reminiscing about the great time you had on your first date? Maybe he is talking about a deep conversation you had one drunken night.
Whatever the specific memory, talking about old times is a sign that he is thinking about you. After all, if he is telling you about it, you can bet he is thinking about you in his spare time too.
7. Social media signs
Social media acts as a window to our thoughts and emotions.
If the guy can’t talk to you directly, then maybe he is communicating his thoughts via social media.
Scroll down his timeline, and then ask yourself… Is he leaving clues?
Most of us have been there at one stage in our lives. We want to tell someone how we feel, but we don’t know how to do it. In fact, maybe he is also confused about your relationship. In such case, he may be trying to communicate via pictures and messages on his Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter.
If he’s really into you, then he will likely be flirting with you.
This is a HUGE sign that he wants you.
So there must be another reason why he hasn’t asked you out again. Maybe he hasn’t got enough money right now, who knows?
Guys have different flirting techniques depending on their personality type, so pay close attention to his comments. Some guys like to get naughty, while others enjoy teasing like kids in the playground.
9. He is talking about you to his or your friends
How do you know if you left a lasting impression?
Well, if you’ve heard that he’s talking about you.
Whether he revealed that he has told his friends about you, or he has been telling your own friends, this is a good sign that your previous date went well.
If he is talking to your friends, then try to get some inside gossip, as he may have spilled the beans on his true feelings and why he hasn’t asked you out again.
10. He makes jokes about you two
There’s an ounce of truth in every joke.
Has he joked that he’s in love with you?
Is he joking about being your boyfriend?
Don’t take these comments lightly. Many of us make jokes around subjects that we are slightly uncomfortable with.
Chances are that he wants to be with you, but wants to see your reaction before he officially asks you.
11. He mirrors your actions
Mirroring is a phenomenon that happens on a subconscious level. Basically, mirroring happens when the guy is imitating your actions.
It shows he’s into you!
Look out for the following mirroring cues:
- Speaking at a similar pace to you
- Sitting in the same position as you
- Moving when you move
- Changing his vocabulary to match yours
- Walking at your speed
- Using the same emoji that you use
Here’s a tip – do something, and then watch to see if he copies you. This could be checking your watch, scratching your arm, or simply crossing your legs.
If he follows your actions, then it can mean that he is subconsciously trying to be in sync with you, which is a huge green flag that he likes you.
12. He’s trying to initiate touch
His feelings will be obvious if he’s trying to initiate touch.
We don’t just mean in a sexual way either, as a simple touch on the shoulder can be a sign that he’s into you and wants to get closer.
He may be doing this as a technique to build rapport and show that he finds you attractive.
He could also be doing it subconsciously. I mean, who doesn’t want to touch the person they’re attracted to?
Whatever the reason, touching is a good sign that he might be about to ask you out again.
It’s worth pointing out that the opposite isn’t true. Just because he isn’t touching you, doesn’t mean he isn’t interested in seeing you again.
He may simply be worried about coming on too strong or intimidating you. In fact, this is a very common occurrence on first dates, as respected guys don’t want to make women feel uncomfortable.
You should also be conscious of guys who want to take advantage of you by touching you inappropriately without consent. It’s best to stay FAR away from men like this as they aren’t showing respect and may be around for the wrong reasons.
13. He wants to know your future plans
Asking about your future plans is one of the clearest signs that he seriously wants to go on more dates with you.
You see, why would he would to know about your future, if he didn’t also see himself in it?
So even if he hasn’t flat out asked you yet, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you or want to go on future dates.
Sometimes life isn’t as simple as going on a date every week.
He may not have been paid yet, be feeling stressed about work, or simply have a gigantic spot on his nose – we have all been there!
He is likely making a mental note of when you are free to go on another date.
Alternatively, he may be trying to learn more about who you are as a person before getting into a long term relationship with you.
Either way, asking about your future is a good sign that he wants to be part of it.
14. He compliments you
Does he pay you compliments?
Whether he is complimenting your hair, smell, or personality quirk, any positive comment is a sign that he is interested in seeing you again.
Bonus points go to the guys that notice the small differences to your look. Just think, he’s got to be pretty into you if he’s noticing the small changes, right?!
15. He’s trying to organize things to do together
Perhaps it is you who is missing the signs…
There’s a chance that the guy thinks he is leaving massive hints, and you just aren’t interested.
Have a think, has he ever tried to organize something or recommended a certain event?
Guys who are interested will usually want to see that person again and again.
However, one rejection can put them off completely, which means they will no longer ask again for fear of further rejection.
If he is asking you to hang out, you don’t need to overthink whether he wants to see you again. He does.
What to do next?
If you’re tired of guessing, you may want to take things into your own hands.
We can become part-time investigators by searching for every small piece of evidence that he’s into you, but sometimes we won’t know until we just ask.
Honestly, communication is paramount for any relationship.
We get it – it’s hard.
But life is too short to spend time guessing and not knowing where you stand.
Nothing is worse losing your own sanity for. Your self-worth and happiness should come from within yourself, not from an external source or person.
Give some bait…
If you don’t want to straight-up ask him, you can leave some hints for him to grab onto.
In fact, there is a good chance that he is Googling the same questions as you are.
You can talk about cool things you’ve seen, new films at the cinema, or new restaurants that have opened. This sets him up perfectly to ask you out on another date.
You could even ask him yourself. Say something like, “Hey that sounds fun. Perhaps we can do that together?”.
His reaction to that question will tell you everything you need to know.