For women, sex is an intimate act. In fact, sex is sacred. It’s this holy experience that means stripping down all your insecurities and being exposed (more emotionally than physically) in front of another person. For a woman, sex is one of the best ways to tell a man that she loves him.
Most women treat their bodies like a temple. Many believe that letting a guy have sex with them is the light at the end of the tunnel.
Sex means sweat and bodies and pure pleasure. When it comes to their approach towards intimacy, men and women are wildly different.
Why Sex Is Important to Guys
Whether it’s their search history, the number of dates they’ve been to, or the number of their one-night stands, one thing is clear: men like sex. In fact, they go to great lengths to obtain it (cue Barney Simpson and the first five seasons of HIMYM).
But why is sex so important to men?
It’s in Their Biology
Of course, both men and women have libidos, and both desire physical intimacy. However, a higher testosterone level—the hormone predominant in men—is the driver behind the desire to have sex. The higher the testosterone level, the greater the desire for sex.
If your man wants sex a lot, that’s the sign of a man with a healthy libido and well-regulated hormones.
It’s Their Love Language
Men do not want you to hold their hands and listen to their feelings. If you really like them, you better get in bed. Most men find it easier to show you how much they love you by making love to you.
Their passion and love for you come out in the bedroom because that’s where it’s easiest for them to show it to you.
They Desire You
A man wanting to have sex with you is the clearest sign you will ever receive that he’s into you. In matters of intimacy, we have finally evolved past thinking with our brains. Women think with their hearts, and men think with their scrotums. And these scrotums only have one thing on their mind. You guessed it: sex.
If a man wants to have sex with you (not the creepy kind), it just means you’re sexy. Take it as a compliment.
They Want to Try Out New Things in Bed
Men watch porn. The duration they watch it, what kind, and what sites they choose may vary; however, watching porn is common amongst most of them.
When they see something that looks interesting or sensual, they want to try it with you. So, they find the right moment and tell you. They like sex so much because there are always new ways to do it.
Sex Is Like Hunger
A woman might want to have sex with you because she loves you. You make her heart skip a beat. She’s planned a wedding with you, and she sees you in her future.
A man might want to have sex with you because he wants sex. That’s pretty much it. For them, it’s more a need than a want. When they’re hungry enough, they’ll settle for anything, as long as they are satiated.
What Guys Think After Sleeping With You
Let’s be honest here. Guys don’t have that many thoughts after sex. If a man is drowsy and happy, it just means he’s thrilled that he slept with you.
Most men are just glad to have a partner to have sex with (instead of a phone screen).
However, if they ever do think something after sex, it’s usually some variation of this.
1. “I’m So Glad She Decided to Sleep With Me”
This is possibly the first thought a man has once you’ve done the deed. He found you sensual, lovely, and absolutely a pleasure to sleep with. So, he’s thanking the stars that he has you in his bed (in that position).
2. “Was I Best She’s Ever Had?”
Think of it this way. All men are Olympians, and the bed is where they perform their Olympics. Sex is the sport, of course. They have prepared for their entire lives to make it. They don’t want the silver medal. They’re going for gold.
Most men put in much effort in making you feel special. They put even more effort into helping you achieve an orgasm.
They want to hear these three magical words after you’re done: Best sex ever.
3. “Did She Enjoy Herself?”
Men are born-providers—of orgasms. Or so they’d like to believe.
Once you agree to sleep with them, everything cell in their body goes into overdrive. Pleasure becomes the operative word for the next however many minutes. They want to enjoy the act, and they want you to enjoy it too.
The bedroom just isn’t a place they want to disappoint someone.
4. “Did She Have an Orgasm?”
Only seven out of ten women reach the climax when they sleep with someone. Making a woman achieve orgasm is one of the best medals a straight guy can get during sex. He has made it to the league of champions.
Bringing a woman to orgasm essentially means that the woman gave herself to the man, and he was capable enough to give her the pleasure she desired. Bringing you to orgasm (fake encouragement aside) is the best achievement a man can get in the bedroom.
5. “Should I Stay the Night?”
If the sleepover (and more) is at your place, chances are the man is unclear about what you want the man to do after he’s tupped you. Do you want him to hold you till you fall asleep? Do you want to get dressed and leave like the wind? Do you want him to figure it out on his own?
During a one-night stand, the rules are shrouded in mystery, and asking the other person for guidance violates a one-night stand’s unsaid rules.
6. “Did I Finish Too Fast?”
We don’t need to reiterate this. Men see sex as power. They want to be as desirable as possible and wish to last for hours. However, men and women are built differently. While women enjoy foreplay the most, men are terrified of getting done with the act before the act itself is done.
Most men are worried if they lasted for too short a period.
7. “Did She Use Protection?”
While condoms are a gift in the form of contraceptives, most men don’t like wearing one. They may make excuses and complain that it’s too small or doesn’t fit, but the truth is that all the action lies outside the rubber.
Most men want the women to be either on birth control pills. Post-sex, all men think the same thing: I hope this party doesn’t result in a baby shower.
8. “Should I Have Worn a Condom?”
It’s around this time that their mind starts to spiral. Did she use birth control? And if she didn’t, why didn’t she ask me to put a condom on? And if she has… how can I politely ask her without making her spiral?
Most men do not hookup to start a family. To them, one-night stands are a mutually agreed instance of no-strings-attached enjoyment. However, strings or no strings, it’s wise to have a condom attached while you’re having sex.
9. “How Soon Can I Jump in the Shower?”
Sex is a dirty act. Fluids get exchanged, and both partners work up a sweat. This makes them feel unclean. While most women want post-sex cuddles or spooning, men are done as soon as they’re done.
Now they want two things: sleep or something to eat. But before they can do either, they want to clean themselves. However, if they get up too soon, it might come off as rude. But lying in bed dirty isn’t fun either. So they toss and turn and wonder how they can get out of this sticky (pun intended) situation.
10. “I Hope We Can Do It Again Sometime”
Sex is a cardiovascular act. It drains its participants, especially men. But once they’ve napped and have had something to eat, they’re back on the wagon. Now they want to do it again (if you’ll have them).
In conclusion, most men are thinking about sex as soon as they’re done with sex.
Warning Signs the Guy Might Have Not Enjoyed It
It won’t be too much of a stretch to say that men are made for sex. However, it is possible that sometimes they might not enjoy it.
There are chances that you might be the reason behind this aversion to sex.
1. They Aren’t Showing Usual Signs of Enjoyment
Men usually moan or groan to indicate that they’re enjoying themselves. They might start huffing and puffing to show you how much they desire you. However, if they aren’t doing that or aren’t showing their usual signs of affection, something might be wrong.
2. They’re Glancing at the Watch
This is a surefire sign he’s not that into you. If a man is having sex, he’s hit the jackpot. But if he’s glancing at the watch during sex, he may not be interested in you anymore.
3. They’ve Closed Their Eyes
While some people may close their eyes to fully enjoy themselves, if your man typically doesn’t do that, it means something is wrong.
Chances are they might even be imagining someone else in your place and have closed their eyes to visualize them.
4. They’re Trying to Change Your Position
If a man isn’t enjoying the sex, it may be because they had made up their mind about doing it another way. This means that he might be trying to turn or change your position or even trying to change his.
This just means that your current position isn’t doing it for him, and he wants something else.
5. You’re Not Enjoying Yourself Either
A big sign that the sex isn’t good comes when you aren’t enjoying it too much either. When one partner is not into it, the other partner can feel it right away. If the man isn’t feeling it, there is a good chance you may stop enjoying it too.
How You Can Become Better In Bed
Know Your Partner’s Erogenous Zones
Intimacy is more than just sex. However, sex is a big part of it. Your partner might enjoy kissing, nibbling, or other types of foreplay. They might enjoy being touched in different places. Ask them what they like. Make them feel sexy by playing with these erogenous zones.
Ask Him What He Likes
Asking your partner what they might like during sex will help them feel like a part of the act. There’s also a great chance you might start enjoying what they like too.
Try Something New
In the words of the great Samantha Jones from Sex and the City, “I’m a trysexual. I’ll try anything once.“
While you don’t have to do something that isn’t consensual or comfortable, it doesn’t hurt to experiment sometimes. Your man might love you a whole lot more if you tried a position you never thought you’d do before. What do you know; you might even enjoy it more than your usual gimmicks.
This isn’t us calling you out on your questionable eating habits. This is us telling you to start treating your body right. When your exercise, it helps you become more mindful of your body. You start understanding what you like and don’t like. When you know what you want, it becomes so much easier to tell your man how you want to be treated.
Look Sexy, Feel Sexy, Be Sexy
Buy that expensive lingerie; it’s an investment that you’ll make in yourself. How you look on the outside will help reflect and even motivate you on the inside.
Once you feel sexy on the outside, it will help you achieve greater heights in the bedroom as well. You will move with confidence and wow the man in front of you.