Sometimes, the feeling just hits you… You’re in a public place with your partner, and you suddenly get the urge to rip each other’s clothes off. But what can you do about it? Can you really have sex in a public place?
The truth is that it can be done, and might in fact result in better sex – and even turn into a kink for some couples.
No matter how you like to do it, there are plenty of ways to make public sex great. Keep reading for some top tips to making quickie sex a success.
1. Create sexual tension.
A quickie can start long before you get undressed. In fact, creating tension beforehand is one of the best ways to enjoy sex in public places. Effectively, you are enjoying a long event, rather than a short one.
You can create tension in a variety of different ways, including:
- Send dirty pictures to each other. This can be a cheeky unbuttoned shirt at work or a more explicit previously-saved image.
- Talk dirty. Send a text to explain what you want to do to them later that day. You can really get into detail and ignite the flame further.
- Tease each other beforehand. It’ll make the fun last longer and reduce the warm-up time when you see each other.
2. Pick your location.
You don’t always have the foresight to pick the perfect location, but sometimes you can plan specific places to have your fun. Choosing a new location allows the two of you to become more spontaneous and open to different experiences.
Make sure the location is private so you can’t caught, especially if you live in a location where it’s illegal. While some people get turned on by having sex in open areas where the chance of getting caught is high, it’s not recommend for first-timers.
The most popular locations for quickie sex are public restrooms or in the back of a car. If you don’t opt for penetration, then the options are nearly limitless – you can have fun on a picnic, on a plane, or under the dinner table.
3. Masturbate beforehand.
When it comes to having a quickie, you’ll want to be prepared before you sneak off to the public place. If you’re able to, touch yourself beforehand. This will build the tension and have you fully prepared to get going immediately.
You can even give manual stimulation to each other before you sneak off, such as giving your man a “hand” under the table and then sneaking off to the restaurant restroom.
4. Dress for the occasion.
Wearing tight trousers or jeans is a no go. It’ll increase the time it takes to get undressed. Remember, every second counts!
Nothing is less sexy than an item of clothing that just won’t come off. Imagine you’re in the moment, passionately kissing, trying to rip clothes off, and the jeans just won’t budge. This seriously kills the sexual mood.
Wear a dress or skirt for easy access. Your partner simply has to lift up your dress, pull the underwear to the side, and then… well, you know.
5. Bring lube.
With a quickie, there’s less time to get going and warm up. It can be hard to get wet so quickly, especially since women generally take longer to get completely aroused.
The time constraints of having a quickie in public will increase the pressure, so using lube is the best way to guarantee fun from the very first moment.
There are a range of small lube bottles on the market, so you don’t need to bring a massive tub around with you wherever you go.
6. Bring small toys.
Toys are the quickest and best way to get warmed up. Pack a small vibrator in your bag, and use it on your own before your partner joins you in the bathroom. That way, you’ll be ready to take your partner right there and then.
Toys are also one of the best ways to add extra variety and novelty to the experience, which is always great! You can even use the vibrator while having sex.
There are a number of different vibrators for you to use, including wearable options that your partner can control – which is one of the cheekiest and most exciting ways to enjoy a public date and the most discreet way to pleasure your partner in a public place.
Most women prefer to just carry a small bullet vibrator at all times. These toys are incredibly small, so no one will be able to see what you’re carrying around.
7. Don’t focus on getting an orgasm.
Trying to race for the orgasm isn’t the best way to enjoy a quickie with your partner. The goal is to have joint pleasure and add some more spice to your relationship.
You don’t even need to have penetrative sex! Stimulation and oral sex are incredibly pleasurable, especially when you have just a few minutes at your disposal.
Trying to both get an orgasm with the time constraints is setting you up for failure – and it can take away from the moment and not allow you to enjoy it for what it is. If you fail to reach an orgasm, you might unnecessarily feel like the quickie was a failure when really, you had a great time with your partner.
8. Plan the positions ahead of time.
While you may have a set-menu of your favorite positions, not all of them will work when you’re having a quickie in a public place. Imagine trying to get into a 69 position while in a public restroom… not so easy!
Knowing what you like ahead of the “big day” is important for ultimate enjoyment, so it’s helpful to have a few positions up your sleeve for when you want to switch things up.
If you want a few ideas for a speedy sex session, give these positions a try (and feel free to try these at home beforehand!):
- Quickstand: This is a great position for having sex while standing. It’s a frequent position used during cheeky showers. Bend over slightly, while your partner takes you from behind. As you can imagine, it’s a very romantic position that builds connection.
- Missionary: This isn’t the most crazy position, but it gets the job done quickly. It’s also incredibly easy to get into – just lay back on any table, chair, seat, or floor, and perfect!
- Doggy: There is nothing like the classic doggy position (but faster!). In fact, it’s a favorite position for many couples, since it allows for deep penetration. You can do this position anywhere you’re able to get down on all fours.
- Reverse Cowgirl: This is a popular bed move, so you might have tried it before – maybe even many times! Reverse cowgirl is perfect for a quickie in a public restroom or anywhere with a seat. Have him take a seat, and squat down onto him as you face away. You can then grind away as he reaches round to stimulate your clitoris.
- Heir to the throne: Here’s an oral sex position to mix things up. Nothing too complicated here – just sit down on a seat, spread your legs, and run your hands through your partner’s hair… This is the best oral sex position for getting for excitement on-the-go, since you can do it almost anywhere (as long as you can contain your moans).
The Bottom Line
If you’re looking for ways to spice up a relationship, it’s time to get creative and explore new possibilities! One sure-fire way is by getting frisky in public. It’ll take your relationship to the next level of intimacy, ramp up the excitement, and will create some unique memories.
The beauty of it is that you can choose what you want in public and where! The more open-minded and creative you get with ideas, the more your relationship will improve and get even more exciting.
After your public quickie, you can keep the momentum going by having an “after sex” talk about what was good and what could have been better. This is the perfect opportunity to get feedback from our partners on where things went well.
If you want a stronger bond with your partner and some extra fun in your life, be sure to try out some – or all – of these ideas!